hi! I'm (22F) a recent graduate from college and am struggling with how to keep up with people I knew from school. I really struggle with meeting new people, and I feel like I know a decent amount of people that I would like to be closer and hang out with more!
I feel like I have relatively good rapport with most people, but I don't know if I'm someone that people like to hang out with that much? I guess that is also my fault… I don't know how to reach out to people or ask to hang out, espcially when I know that they have a social life and better friends than me. I feel like I'm an acquaintance in the lives of most people I know but I don't want that to be the case! But how do I start talking to people when that wasn't our relationship before? Like we don't text, it would feel weird to just be like hey lets go to the park sometime idk. I want to text people more, but what do you even say? hi how r u? like that just feels awkward
It sucks because when I'm around these people I feel happy and it feels like they like me, but I'm obviously not a priority for them nor really important in their lives, which is fair! I disappear from their mind when I'm out of sight. Then they post on instagram or whatever about hanging out and doing things and I'm just alone in my apartment on a beautiful Saturday figuring out if I actually want to muster up the energy and go to the park alone or if I should just give up and stay inside all day.
So yeah, not really sure what to do. Would love some advice…? thanks