I’m 35F and my husband is 47M. We have a 12 year age gap. We met when I was 26 and I was in such a rush to get married. He proposed within 2 years and we got married. He’s always been particular about everything but I always chalked it up to just his personality but now I’m realizing I think he’s manipulative and emotionally abusive.
I’ve always been career oriented and have held pretty good jobs. My husband was a personal trainer for 20 years and left the industry about 2 years ago but has had very little luck finding a stable job. Every job that he gets, he leaves within the year. The problem is “never him”, it’s people at the job that are the problem. Probably due to lack of confidence, he nit picks everything that I do around the house. I am the breadwinner and always have been. But he treats me poorly for it.
We have a 3 year old daughter who is in preschool 2 days a week and The rest of the time he is currently a SAHD. We used to have a sitter but due to finances had to let her go. Every morning my daughter and I wake up walking on eggshells depending on his attitude that morning.
He smokes weed every day, says he’s applying to jobs but only jobs that won’t drug test. It seriously feels like I’m being used. Everytime I say soemthing that bothers me about finances or him not pulling his weight he gets defensive and says I’m not grateful. Am I delusional and should I be grateful or so I have a right to be annoyed about our financial situation?