I've been the main provider steady as she goes for 20 years. By mutual choice wife became a mom. We're at a place now where kids need help with college finances and we have to cosign their loans. She started to work a below her skill level entry level minimum wage part time job since the kids need less and less parental attention. She's deciding how she wants to re enter the workforce and pondering carefully what path to choose to make sure it's the right fit with her passion. Meanwhile I carry the burden throughout with staying with jobs to pay the bills. We brainstormed some ways to make extra money to help soften the debt of student loans for our kids. The idea she was super excited about was that I get a second job on top of my current salaried position. Not once did she mention getting a full time position herself that has actual benefits and lives up to her earning potential. I have to be super careful not to offend her lest she feels pressured to work by me, because I don't understand what it's like to be a mom. I've got struggles and am just super exhausted by all this. She literally reads books 4 to 6 hours a day and watches shows. Am I supposed to get a second job now? WTH.