A few weeks ago, I told my best friend I had feelings for him. He didn’t respond right away, but the next day he admitted he felt the same, and had for a while. I thought something amazing was starting.
Then last week, he told me he’s “not good enough” for me and “not ready for a relationship.” It hit hard. He knows everything I’ve been through in dating, including dealing with a stalker. Now it feels like I’ve lost both a potential relationship and one of the closest people in my life.
I was genuinely excited about him because I trusted him, felt safe, and thought I could finally stop the endless cycle of dating apps and bad experiences. I’ve also been abstinent for over a year and a half, and this felt like the connection I’d been waiting for.
Now I’m just feeling pretty touch-starved, broken hearted and unsure. Part of me is considering trying FWB just to meet that need for physical connection, but the other part of me is wondering if I should just get back into OLD and hope for something more meaningful.
Has anyone else been in a similar spot? What would you do?
TLDR: Best friend said he loved me, then backed out. Now I’m touch-starved and torn between FWB or going back to dating apps.