When we first got together we were all about quality time and physical touch. Long walks, staying up late talking, spontaneous weekend trips basically anything that let us be together.
Then we had kids and uddenly quality time meant grocery shopping without a toddler meltdown, and physical touch was more about passing a baby back and forth at 3am than cuddling on the couch
It took us a while to realize we werent speaking the same love languages anymore. I kept trying to plan little date nights at home, while my partner just wanted me to take one of the kids so they could shower in peace.
That hit hard. We’ve only recently started talking about it and it still feels tricky. Were trying to figure out how to meet each other where we are now without feeling like we’ve lost what we had before kids. Some days it works some days it feels like we’re speaking completely different languages.
Has anyone else noticed their love languages change after kids? How do you work through it without feeling like you’re drifting further apart?