Me and my GF have been dating long distance for a couple of years now and has just recently moved in with me. We have a few challenges to overcome but over all the past few months have going well.
However one area we seem to struggle with is in the bedroom. For me I just cant last that long, years of being alone and the "just getting it out of my system" has trained my body to just get it over with asap. It doesn't help that she takes a minute. For her she was in relationships where when he wanted something he would just go for it. For me I like her to initiate from time to time and she has no clue what she's doing when it comes to initiating.
My question comes from a conversation we had the other day where she asked if i want to spice things up to help her get in the mood and give me something to do instead of going strait to penetration.
So my question is, is it too early to be using more than just what God gave us to have fun? i don't even know what all the options are, Toys, meds, porn, kinks ect.
I don't really have an issue with any ideas but my worry is it to early. Like i want to be with her for the rest of my life and i don't want to try everything before we have even passed a year.
We both don't really know that much about the subject so any thoughts would be helpful.