The cycle: Match on a dating app. She's completely enamored with me and just can't get enough… for about 3 days. A week if I'm lucky. Then she just disappears without a single word or does a slow fadeaway and breadcrumbs me into thinking I have a chance. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Things were going fantastic yesterday. But this is just how it is.
It's been like this for so long. My friends say that this just what dating apps are for men. She will never stop swiping, looking to upgrade. If you're not a 10 with everything, you're a 0 with nothing. And if you ARE a 10 with everything, she's just going to have you as a placeholder while she looks for the next 10 with everything.
It's proven true, at least in my experience, over and over again. Driving me compltely mad. My male friends have shared similar experiences, while my female friends say they swipe right 5 times, they're guaranteed a minimum of 4 dates.
This year, from January 1st to the day I'm making this post, I can count on one hand the number of women who actually showed up when we scheduled the date. And the date seemed to go incredible. But then she just disappears.
I have absolutely no idea how else to meet people though. There have been a few times where I'm bar hopping with my friends, a random stranger starts talking with me for a while before she has to go, and then about 5 minutes after she leaves it hits me like a goddamn freight train that she liked me and wanted me to ask her on a date.
Wasn't really a consistent enough thing though for me to expect it to happen when I went out, plus I don't really go out to bars anymore. At least haven't in a few months.
How else do I meet someone?
Footnote: I'm 26. Surely these issues won't get worse with each year older I get, right? The day I hit 30 all these struggles won't get exponentially worse, right?