Unfortunately I don't really have a success story yet. I tried dating 7 times this year and this last one has left it hard to get out of bed sometimes. I've also never been in a relationship either. Right now I'm exhausted and drained. I tried to get out of bed this morning and it felt like I was pulling so much weight just trying to get up.

I don't like a lot of people often either but I came up with nothing.

I can sit here and focus on friendships and family but they only temporarily fill a whole that a deeply connection romantic partner can fill.

No im not codependent yes I go to therapy but all I want is someone to hold and ask about my day and geninuely mean it when my friends ask I feel cold but when this person asked me I felt heard and seen.

Anyways time to take a break.


10 comments

  1. It is indeed time to take a break if it is affecting your mental health negatively.

  3. lol I dont date since 2017. I found myself lonely but cool is being better than being with someone but doesnt feel right.

  4. Take a break but dont be disheartened. We are all out here doing the same thing and theres nothing wrong with any of us. Remember, you only need to get it right once!

  5. I’ve never gotten anywhere with dating. Never a match, never a conversation, never any dates. I’m like expired meat that should just be thrown in the garbage.

  6. My experience, I was bad at it – went to therapy for 10 months – now it’s fixed

  7. 7 tries in a year is a lot of emotional energy, no wonder you feel drained. taking a break isn’t failure, it’s recharging. sometimes stepping back is exactly what helps you come back with less pressure on yourself and more room for the right connection to happen

  8. I’ve tried 0 times this year so better than me. I’m still trying to get my life together a bit

  10. I know how you feel. Those of us that gravitate towards intimacy and touch to connect with people have a lot harder time dealing with this. Especially those that are empathetic. I also have had some tough times over the past month because of someone that I have separated myself from that did a complete 180 of how they were towards me and it was pretty shocking. I had given myself so much to them that even though it was my choice to walk away, that’s still affected me pretty well. But you go Day by day, you always have a hope that somebody will come by that even in the interim temporarily can alleviate some of the pain and ease the transition into being alone again until you’re comfortable finding somebody that messes well with you

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