I (21 NB) would consider myself a big time people person and extrovert. I feel I do very well in groups but I struggle in one to one conversations and connections with people. I’m trying to be better about platonic affection ie telling friends I love them, texting back, hugging and physical touch etc but it still makes me very uncomfortable even though it’s something I want.
I have a really hard time being vulnerable so it’s easier for me to be the funny guy in a group setting but I feel like it’s making me feel like a one dimensional person and maybe people might not feel they can get to know me. How do I get more comfortable talking and hanging out with others one on one?
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It’s wild how being the funny one in a group can make you feel invisible sometimes. One-on-one stuff is a whole different game, and it’s normal to feel awkward at first. You don’t have to force deep talks—just being present is enough.
Try sharing something small about yourself, even if it feels silly. That’s how real connections start. You’re not alone in wanting more than surface-level friendships. It’s brave to want to grow, and you’re already on the right track.