Do you ever genuinely just forget you’re married? Not in a bad way or anything sinister just literally forget sometimes?
August 18, 2025
Do you ever genuinely just forget you’re married? Not in a bad way or anything sinister just literally forget sometimes?
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Can’t say I’ve ever done that, no. At least not that I recall.
There are lots of times I simply don’t think about it, but I I wouldn’t say I “forgot”.
When I was little I just couldn’t imagine being married and running a household and having a job, they all seemed like such mad things. Like that’s what *adults* do. How would I know how to do that??
And now occasionally I do catch myself in the midst of adulting and see myself through those eyes again and it does suddenly feel weird to consciously *realise* I now do all those things.
And it still feels much like a Let’s Pretend game at times haha
No, because I’m not married.
But if it makes you feel better, I regularly forget if I’m related to my nan or not.
She was adopted, and for some reason my brain occasionally forgets what exactly that means in terms of blood relation.
No, but I sometimes forget I’m the adult. For context, I’m past 50, have four kids and am married. Sometimes, especially if my husband is away for work, I realise I’m the adult, the only one responsible if things go awry. Blows me away to remember that. How can I be in charge?!
Sometimes I still don’t feel old enough to be married, even though I’m 30 with a job and a mortgage 😂
Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t remember who I am.
But more specifically to your question – I was once balls deep in this lady from HR and suddenly I was like ‘oh shit, I forgot about Gertrude!’ I feel it wasn’t really my fault
I forget I’ve got kids sometimes!
I’ve never been married.. by choice..but I’ve had friends back in the days when most women took their husband’s family name to forget..and call themselves by their ‘maiden name’.
I’m only 41. I don’t feel grownup enough to get married.
I can’t say it’s something I’ve ever forgotten. But also it’s not like I’m actively thinking about being married ever really, it barely comes up in my day to day beyond filling out the odd form. Don’t get me wrong, I think about my husband all the time, but I’m thinking about him as a person not our “marriage” specifically?
when too focused on work…my mother was like that, she was a bit of workaholic.
This never happened to me, quite the opposite. Sometimes I forget there was a time in my life that I had no idea my partner existed, it feels like we’ve been always a thing. But sometimes I forget my age. Like what do you mean I’m no longer 18???? What do you mean I’m 30?????
I don’t forget but sometimes I get this weird feeling like I can’t believe I’m married and have a baby. It’s everything I ever wanted and never thought it would happen to me (I was in a toxic relationship for 6 years before meeting my husband and was convinced no one would ever love me. Plus have PCOS and was convinced I’d never be able to have a baby)
Sometimes I’ll get the giggles because I remember that I’m married. I’m a wife! I have a husband!
I’m not nearly mature enough for that sort of thing. (I’m 35)
how the fuck is that even a question
No, I never forget that I’m married. 9 years in.
We have a civil partnership and literally just signed a piece of paper in front of two witnesses. I forget about that fairly often.
My fiancé had ADHD.. so she kinda forgot that I exist if she can’t see me. Or if im out..
I personally find it funny.
No. But I’m not actually married so it would be kind of weird if I did.
Oh, thanks for remindinge🤣🤣 yes, all the time. We got hitched during covid so had no big day. I also don’t wear a wedding band as I hate rings. The act of getting married seems such a grown up thing to do and, well, I’m not a grown up. (in my head anyway)
I’m not married but in a long term relationship, and I relate. I think it’s about being comfortable enough with your partner that you feel true and happy within your identity, the way you might have felt as a child before you knew they existed – like your life doesn’t revolve around them but it’s securely there
Yes – sometimes I look at my husband and I think to myself “oh I’ll marry this guy” luckily I’ve never said it out loud.
I also regularly forget that I’m mid 30s and not 10 years younger and I feel like I’m playing at being an adult
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Can’t say I’ve ever done that, no. At least not that I recall.
There are lots of times I simply don’t think about it, but I I wouldn’t say I “forgot”.
When I was little I just couldn’t imagine being married and running a household and having a job, they all seemed like such mad things. Like that’s what *adults* do. How would I know how to do that??
And now occasionally I do catch myself in the midst of adulting and see myself through those eyes again and it does suddenly feel weird to consciously *realise* I now do all those things.
And it still feels much like a Let’s Pretend game at times haha
No, because I’m not married.
But if it makes you feel better, I regularly forget if I’m related to my nan or not.
She was adopted, and for some reason my brain occasionally forgets what exactly that means in terms of blood relation.
No, but I sometimes forget I’m the adult. For context, I’m past 50, have four kids and am married. Sometimes, especially if my husband is away for work, I realise I’m the adult, the only one responsible if things go awry. Blows me away to remember that. How can I be in charge?!
Sometimes I still don’t feel old enough to be married, even though I’m 30 with a job and a mortgage 😂
Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t remember who I am.
But more specifically to your question – I was once balls deep in this lady from HR and suddenly I was like ‘oh shit, I forgot about Gertrude!’ I feel it wasn’t really my fault
I forget I’ve got kids sometimes!
I’ve never been married.. by choice..but I’ve had friends back in the days when most women took their husband’s family name to forget..and call themselves by their ‘maiden name’.
I’m only 41. I don’t feel grownup enough to get married.
I can’t say it’s something I’ve ever forgotten. But also it’s not like I’m actively thinking about being married ever really, it barely comes up in my day to day beyond filling out the odd form. Don’t get me wrong, I think about my husband all the time, but I’m thinking about him as a person not our “marriage” specifically?
when too focused on work…my mother was like that, she was a bit of workaholic.
This never happened to me, quite the opposite. Sometimes I forget there was a time in my life that I had no idea my partner existed, it feels like we’ve been always a thing. But sometimes I forget my age. Like what do you mean I’m no longer 18???? What do you mean I’m 30?????
I don’t forget but sometimes I get this weird feeling like I can’t believe I’m married and have a baby. It’s everything I ever wanted and never thought it would happen to me (I was in a toxic relationship for 6 years before meeting my husband and was convinced no one would ever love me. Plus have PCOS and was convinced I’d never be able to have a baby)
Sometimes I’ll get the giggles because I remember that I’m married. I’m a wife! I have a husband!
I’m not nearly mature enough for that sort of thing. (I’m 35)
how the fuck is that even a question
No, I never forget that I’m married. 9 years in.
We have a civil partnership and literally just signed a piece of paper in front of two witnesses. I forget about that fairly often.
My fiancé had ADHD.. so she kinda forgot that I exist if she can’t see me. Or if im out..
I personally find it funny.
No. But I’m not actually married so it would be kind of weird if I did.
Oh, thanks for remindinge🤣🤣 yes, all the time. We got hitched during covid so had no big day. I also don’t wear a wedding band as I hate rings. The act of getting married seems such a grown up thing to do and, well, I’m not a grown up. (in my head anyway)
I’m not married but in a long term relationship, and I relate. I think it’s about being comfortable enough with your partner that you feel true and happy within your identity, the way you might have felt as a child before you knew they existed – like your life doesn’t revolve around them but it’s securely there
Yes – sometimes I look at my husband and I think to myself “oh I’ll marry this guy” luckily I’ve never said it out loud.
I also regularly forget that I’m mid 30s and not 10 years younger and I feel like I’m playing at being an adult