How often have you thought about cheating on your SO?
August 19, 2025
How often have you thought about cheating on your SO?
33 comments
Uhh never 😠wtf
Never, I’m not monogamous.
Never
Have I met people I have chemistry with and if I was single would have pursued? Yes. Did I ever even think about cheating on my partner? Nope absolutely not.
Never. I know how it feels to be cheated on. I would never do that to someone else.
Don’t have one, but I would never cheat.
everyday
Never. I am attracted to people and even masturbate sometimes thinking of random people but thinking I’d ACTUALLY hurt my partner whom I love and am committed to? Not once. I’d get a divorce first.
Never? I’m in love with him and by some crazy luck he loves me too, I don’t care for anyone else
When I was with my first boyfriend who was 23 and I 16? And he was incredibly stupid? And he cheated on me twelve times? And he was so condescending and annoying? Almost every day
When I was with my ex husband? Who was malicious and cruel? Routinely brought up past sexual experiences as a means of humiliating me? Encouraged self harm? Once. With a guy who was incredibly kind and in love with me
With men who I’ve been in love with but couldn’t be with? It felt dishonest to touch other men
OP if you’re a man with an insecurity – we do not think about that unless we don’t really like you
Never!! First, I’m a good human that absolutely despises cheating/cheaters. Second, it’s impossible for me to even think about that bc I’m so loyal and I use up all my emotional energy on that man trying to find ways to love him harder lolÂ
Ngl I got tempted regularly because the guy was attractive, persistent, and we had more things in common than my SO😠But I always chose my SO and never crossed that line.
It took a year after my SO and I broke up before we got together. And even then, I felt guilty.
When it had been close to 8 months since he last touched me, and I realized that we had had sex less than 12 times in the last 5 years.
Prior to that, never, and would have never seen myself as capable.
Omfg never!
I really don’t
Never. I love him very much, we have an amazing relationship, my needs are very much met, and I have zero interest in anyone else. I am very happy with what I have, and very grateful for how lucky I got with him.
And besides that, I am a decent human being who would never cheat, and has never cheated before, even in bad relationships.
Never, wtf. After one very mismatched but amicable relationship and one emotionally abusive one, I’ve found my person. I have zero interest in anyone else. My husband is truly my best friend and the best match I’ve ever had romantically/sexually. I simply have no desire to cheat on him. And if in some weird alternate reality I did for god knows what reason, I couldn’t live with myself having done that to the person I love.
Every once in a while, I’ll develop a ridiculous crush on someone and I’ll imagine what it would be like to be married to them. Does that count? As far as actually planning a tryst, it never gets that far
Never?? Do you mean in a intrusive thoughts way or like, you’re *actually* thinking about doing it? Cuz that’s concerning babe.
Never! I’m so in love, I havent even thought about cheating
We’ve been together since we were in high school. The only time I’ve ever thought about it was in my first year of college (our second year together). I was about an hour away from home, so we only saw each other every other weekend, and I was immature and lonely. There was this person in one of my classes, and we chatted and became friendly. They were nice to spend time with. We got lunch together after class one time, and walked around campus a couple of more times, but that’s about it. I couldn’t do that to my partner.
Nearly 20 years later, that few weeks in college has remained the only time I’ve ever thought about it.
Hmm when we first met it was a few times. I’d meet someone, think they’re quite cool and wonder. When we met I also had a huge crush on my then boss (who was married and I wouldn’t ACTUALLY touch with a 10 foot pole) but did I think about it? Yeah.
When we got closer and got more serious I didn’t really think about it, I very actively made the decision to choose him. I wasn’t only with him because we happened to be together, it was a choice.
I find the chemistry and excitement with someone new electrifying. So yes, I thought about it. I’ve told him as much. Never did it. And never would’ve.
never
Never. I don’t like people that damn much.
Never, he is the love of my life. My soulmate. If you’re thinking about that you shouldn’t be together.
Never. I was into the relationship and working on the marriage until I realised I’m the only one willing to do the work.
Then I was out.
Unfortunately when we were going though a really rough patch I thought about it and almost acted on it when I was vulnerable but luckily I was able to snap out of it. We’re doing much better now and I’m so thankful that i didn’t give in to temptation. We’ve had rough patches since and I still didn’t feel the desire to step outside of the relationship
If cheating ever even crossed my mind, I’d just breakup. Cheating is one of the lowest things someone can do. If you want to be with someone else, be a freaking adult and grow a pair and end it with the person you’re with. End of story.
Unfortunately when we were going through a really rough patch I did think about it and I almost acted on it one time when I was especially vulnerable. We’re doing much better now and I’m so thankful I didn’t give in to temptation. We’ve even had rough patches since then and I still didn’t feel the urge to step outside of the relationship. In a way I’m kind of glad it happened because it was a wake up call
Literally never???? I would rather die tbh. Weird question
Everyday. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost four years. He’s a good guy, and I know he loves me and would never cheat on me. But I’ve never felt like he’s my man. I never had that excitement or butterflies or felt special. I am now very masculine and pay for almost everything—cruises, restaurants, gifts. I’m always the one planning trips, making decisions, and handling the logistics. It’s taken years of kissing frogs to find a good guy, and with my line of work it’s hard to meet people, so I haven’t had much luck and don’t want to start over and be lonely again. Over the past year, I’ve started noticing attractive, masculine men, and I do have thoughts about them. Honestly, part of me feels like I deserve to cheat because I’m carrying so much in the relationship. It makes me question my needs and whether I’m with the right person. He’s a great partner and I know at the end of the day that’s whats most important but I really wish I could have those sparks. I’ve tried even at the beginning but it just wasn’t there. Hes my best friend and I love him very much, if you ask him he’d say we’re in a great relationship. So I guess im happy that he can’t tell I’m unhappy. He’s my best friend and I can’t repeat that enough. I live him so much but it’s not the romantic love.
There’s a cop I text from time to time. There’s mutual attraction, but I can’t act on it. I don’t want to hurt his wife, while I don’t know anything about their relationship she’s beautiful and everything a man could want on paper, I can’t hurt her. And I don’t want to be used just for sex.
But the X rated stuff! Yeah I miss the attraction and the unknown of whats going to happen and how it’s going to feel. I miss wanting to touch someone. Having someone initiate and see the lust in their eyes. Wanting to explore every inch of someone’s body and make them feel good.
If I thought about cheating, I’d stop being in a relationship because obviously, there’s something wrong.
Never
NEVER – he is my other half, best friend, and the only lover I want
I cherish him and he cherishes me. I cant imagine doing anything so cruel to the person I swore to spend my life with.
33 comments
Uhh never 😠wtf
Never, I’m not monogamous.
Never
Have I met people I have chemistry with and if I was single would have pursued? Yes. Did I ever even think about cheating on my partner? Nope absolutely not.
Never. I know how it feels to be cheated on. I would never do that to someone else.
Don’t have one, but I would never cheat.
everyday
Never. I am attracted to people and even masturbate sometimes thinking of random people but thinking I’d ACTUALLY hurt my partner whom I love and am committed to? Not once. I’d get a divorce first.
Never? I’m in love with him and by some crazy luck he loves me too, I don’t care for anyone else
When I was with my first boyfriend who was 23 and I 16? And he was incredibly stupid? And he cheated on me twelve times? And he was so condescending and annoying? Almost every day
When I was with my ex husband? Who was malicious and cruel? Routinely brought up past sexual experiences as a means of humiliating me? Encouraged self harm? Once. With a guy who was incredibly kind and in love with me
With men who I’ve been in love with but couldn’t be with? It felt dishonest to touch other men
OP if you’re a man with an insecurity – we do not think about that unless we don’t really like you
Never!! First, I’m a good human that absolutely despises cheating/cheaters. Second, it’s impossible for me to even think about that bc I’m so loyal and I use up all my emotional energy on that man trying to find ways to love him harder lolÂ
Ngl I got tempted regularly because the guy was attractive, persistent, and we had more things in common than my SO😠But I always chose my SO and never crossed that line.
It took a year after my SO and I broke up before we got together. And even then, I felt guilty.
When it had been close to 8 months since he last touched me, and I realized that we had had sex less than 12 times in the last 5 years.
Prior to that, never, and would have never seen myself as capable.
Omfg never!
I really don’t
Never. I love him very much, we have an amazing relationship, my needs are very much met, and I have zero interest in anyone else. I am very happy with what I have, and very grateful for how lucky I got with him.
And besides that, I am a decent human being who would never cheat, and has never cheated before, even in bad relationships.
Never, wtf. After one very mismatched but amicable relationship and one emotionally abusive one, I’ve found my person. I have zero interest in anyone else. My husband is truly my best friend and the best match I’ve ever had romantically/sexually. I simply have no desire to cheat on him. And if in some weird alternate reality I did for god knows what reason, I couldn’t live with myself having done that to the person I love.
Every once in a while, I’ll develop a ridiculous crush on someone and I’ll imagine what it would be like to be married to them. Does that count? As far as actually planning a tryst, it never gets that far
Never?? Do you mean in a intrusive thoughts way or like, you’re *actually* thinking about doing it? Cuz that’s concerning babe.
Never! I’m so in love, I havent even thought about cheating
We’ve been together since we were in high school. The only time I’ve ever thought about it was in my first year of college (our second year together). I was about an hour away from home, so we only saw each other every other weekend, and I was immature and lonely. There was this person in one of my classes, and we chatted and became friendly. They were nice to spend time with. We got lunch together after class one time, and walked around campus a couple of more times, but that’s about it. I couldn’t do that to my partner.
Nearly 20 years later, that few weeks in college has remained the only time I’ve ever thought about it.
Hmm when we first met it was a few times. I’d meet someone, think they’re quite cool and wonder. When we met I also had a huge crush on my then boss (who was married and I wouldn’t ACTUALLY touch with a 10 foot pole) but did I think about it? Yeah.
When we got closer and got more serious I didn’t really think about it, I very actively made the decision to choose him. I wasn’t only with him because we happened to be together, it was a choice.
I find the chemistry and excitement with someone new electrifying. So yes, I thought about it. I’ve told him as much. Never did it. And never would’ve.
never
Never. I don’t like people that damn much.
Never, he is the love of my life. My soulmate. If you’re thinking about that you shouldn’t be together.
Never. I was into the relationship and working on the marriage until I realised I’m the only one willing to do the work.
Then I was out.
Unfortunately when we were going though a really rough patch I thought about it and almost acted on it when I was vulnerable but luckily I was able to snap out of it. We’re doing much better now and I’m so thankful that i didn’t give in to temptation. We’ve had rough patches since and I still didn’t feel the desire to step outside of the relationship
If cheating ever even crossed my mind, I’d just breakup. Cheating is one of the lowest things someone can do. If you want to be with someone else, be a freaking adult and grow a pair and end it with the person you’re with. End of story.
Unfortunately when we were going through a really rough patch I did think about it and I almost acted on it one time when I was especially vulnerable. We’re doing much better now and I’m so thankful I didn’t give in to temptation. We’ve even had rough patches since then and I still didn’t feel the urge to step outside of the relationship. In a way I’m kind of glad it happened because it was a wake up call
Literally never???? I would rather die tbh. Weird question
Everyday. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost four years. He’s a good guy, and I know he loves me and would never cheat on me. But I’ve never felt like he’s my man. I never had that excitement or butterflies or felt special. I am now very masculine and pay for almost everything—cruises, restaurants, gifts. I’m always the one planning trips, making decisions, and handling the logistics. It’s taken years of kissing frogs to find a good guy, and with my line of work it’s hard to meet people, so I haven’t had much luck and don’t want to start over and be lonely again. Over the past year, I’ve started noticing attractive, masculine men, and I do have thoughts about them. Honestly, part of me feels like I deserve to cheat because I’m carrying so much in the relationship. It makes me question my needs and whether I’m with the right person. He’s a great partner and I know at the end of the day that’s whats most important but I really wish I could have those sparks. I’ve tried even at the beginning but it just wasn’t there. Hes my best friend and I love him very much, if you ask him he’d say we’re in a great relationship. So I guess im happy that he can’t tell I’m unhappy. He’s my best friend and I can’t repeat that enough. I live him so much but it’s not the romantic love.
There’s a cop I text from time to time. There’s mutual attraction, but I can’t act on it. I don’t want to hurt his wife, while I don’t know anything about their relationship she’s beautiful and everything a man could want on paper, I can’t hurt her. And I don’t want to be used just for sex.
But the X rated stuff! Yeah I miss the attraction and the unknown of whats going to happen and how it’s going to feel. I miss wanting to touch someone. Having someone initiate and see the lust in their eyes. Wanting to explore every inch of someone’s body and make them feel good.
If I thought about cheating, I’d stop being in a relationship because obviously, there’s something wrong.
Never
NEVER – he is my other half, best friend, and the only lover I want
I cherish him and he cherishes me. I cant imagine doing anything so cruel to the person I swore to spend my life with.