I (19f) only came/squirted twice or thrice in my life, both times with a vibrator. I was about 16 at the time and it felt gross “wetting” the entire bed, so I kind of stopped making myself come; I just masturbated until right before I orgasm and then stopped.

My new boyfriend (19m) and I have been together for a few months now and we sometimes play around with my vibrator. He had expressed interest in making me come/squirt (WITHOUT ANY PRESSURE FROM HIS SIDE), but I don’t ever come, despite him bringing me to the (very) edge.

He told me he doesn’t want to pressure me but that it would be nice to make me come, which I agree with. I feel like something’s mentally blocking my ability to come. Any advice? Thanks


3 comments

  1. Might be, drink alot of water before you masturbate, even start doing it when you are peeing. Add more pressure on the g-spot.

  2. I had something similar happen after I squirted for the first time. I was embarrassed by the mess and kind of trained myself to stop right before release. It took me a while to unlearn that. What helped was giving myself permission to let go without worrying about what happens after. Towels on the bed made it feel less stressful. For me it was very much a mental block, and once I stopped overthinking it, my body responded again.

  3. They have throw blankets that are made for making a fun mess on. They’re so soft just like a regular one but are super absorbent so you just put that in the wash afterwards.
    For your ability to achieve: I definitely just recommend getting as comfortable as possible knowing he’ll love it (maybe ask for some dirty talk about him wanting to make you happy) also try remembering the cleanup won’t be that bad if you have towels or a blanket you can wash after.
    Other options are you could get held down or restrained so you can’t push away (which could be fun if you’re into exploring that), and I’ve saved the best for last.
    Get hot and steamy in the shower, great for squirting, period sex and general easy cleanup. Take your vibe or use the shower stream and have fun.
    Best of luck to you sweetheart! Hopefully you’ll be riding those highs in no time. Xx

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