26M here. This has been racking my mind for awhile now. But I am of the opinion that there are some people who just are not going to be able to attract the kind of people they are actually attracted to when it comes to dating. I have also come to the conclusion that I am most likely one of those ppl. My past 2 relationships I've gone with the "find whatever you can on a dating app and live with it" method. They were girls that I thought were okay, at best looks-wise but they were nice so I dated them. In both relationships as time went on, normal relationship stuff happened and the fact that I didn't really find them attractive in the first place eventually came back to the surface. This isn't necessarily why I broke up with them (I ended up ending both relationships). But things happened and it was just time to move on. The first of these relationships was the girl I got the hardest love from (it bordered on obsession), and the second one was probably my smoothest relationship as far as how we got along, for a good majority of it, we had a baby and then that's what added stress to our relationship, amongst other things that made us incompatible. The last time I actually approached a girl I was attracted to and she actually reciprocated it was 10 years ago with my high school sweetheart. Since then, seeking out a woman that I actually find attractive and PURSUING hasn't worked for me. Out of the last 10 years I have been single for a collective 2 1/2 years of them. With the longest stretch of singleness being 1 1/2 years. I know that whether looks/attraction matter in a relationship is just up to the person a lot of times. I know some ppl NEED to be attracted to their partner, and others can look past attraction or maybe develope it. For me, lack of attractiveness didn't keep me from getting into relationships, but it did honestly make leaving the relationships more appealing in a "I didn't really find her that attractive anyway" type of way. With my HS sweetheart, it was one of the most contentious relationships but we really loved each other and wanted it to work, but we went to different colleges and that pulled us apart. Not being single for very long made me forget just how bad my luck is with getting women to actually reciprocate desire has been for me. At first I was determined to take the "I'm gonna wait and find someone who reciprocates that attractiveness even if it takes 30 years" approach. But I'm contemplating just going the route of "I may not be attracted to her, but there are other things I like about her, she'll do."I'm no prize, but I want to be with a woman that I look at and go, "Wow she's beautiful!". But I feel like Im starting to realize, as I said earlier, that just may not be in the cards for some people. It's not that she has to be in a certain "league" I just want her to appeal to me. Thoughts?