Trying to figure our if what I (36m) usually do is what has made me have a bit of a problem succeeding in first dates going anywhere. There's more to this, but those issues I have mostly fixed but I wonder if this is a major thing that turns women off.
I'm very inquisitive and curious of people, and want to know about them and their experiences.
So I ask them something like, for example, what their most fun trip was and they respond. Then what I tend to do is try to bond with them through similar experiehave aspergefnces. Say that she answers Spain and some more, then I say "oh cool! I visit Spain every year as my father lives on Mallorca. I love the island because so and so".
They don't seem annoyed by it but on the other hand I do have Aspergers and might miss out some facial expression showing disapproval.
Would it be better to keep it all about them and their experience, and keep asking about it, rather than trying to bond by shared experience?
Reason I ask is because an aquaintance said that it might be a bit selfish to make it all about me instead of her, which is not my intention.