Has anyone here found that when you got older (65+) that you have a harder time orgasming? I’ve been with my SO for 13 years. We had a great sex life. We went several years without sex due to a physical issue he had. After his surgery & healing, we decided to try again. I will reach like a peak and then it goes away. I can never cross that bridge either with him or solo. Just trying to figure this out because I used to have awesome orgasms and multiple orgasms
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Has anyone here found that when you got older (65+) that you have a harder time orgasming? I’ve been with my SO for 13 years. We had a great sex life. We went several years without sex due to a physical issue he had. After his surgery & healing, we decided to try again. I will reach like a peak and then it goes away. I can never cross that bridge either with him or solo. Just trying to figure this out because I used to have awesome orgasms and multiple orgasms
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Were you still able to orgasm solo in the gap when he was having the physical issue?
I feel like female orgasm, esp, can be kind of a “use it or lose it” muscle memory thing– it does take a fair bit of “working-with” in our own bodies to take the sensations we are feeling and turn them into orgasm. It could be that your muscle memory on tipping “like a peak” into an orgasm is out of practice.
Being a woman of a particular vintage myself (a spry couple-years-over 50), I also started having WAY more issues with hypertonic pelvic floor, which I now see I’ve had most of my life (I am thinking possibly at least in part to how I masturbated from ages pre-memory through about 20), so I have been doing more mindful work around releasing that, and I also feel just more juicy and normal with estradiol cream to keep tissues all unctuous and whatnot… so, a trip to the doctor might not be a bad idea.