Like this sub for eg. Sure, some share their views on dating but that’s THEIR experience. I feel like so many people take it as the truth.
Reality doesn’t work like that. You can’t help who you’re attracted to. You can’t look at a couple and immediate assume yeah they both attractive so they paired up.
Like one thing that comes up a lot is the notion that people need to know their league and date within. In theory, you may think that but we are all humans with our own unique interest, preferences and standards. The beautiful thing about life is you really don’t know who actually likes you from afar.
Online people keep selling the idea that you need to constantly improve yourself and you’ll find a partner. No. Relationship don’t work like that. You put yourself out there, take care of yourself because you have self respect, be yourself , do things you like and meet like minded people and see where it goes. That’s it. This whole idea you need to get really muscular, you need to make 6 figures, you need to change who you are to fit what you think is ideal is ridiculous. Would you want someone to only like you for your superficiality? When will it end?
In real life there are so many stories of how people met. And not once did I ever hear yeah we met because we both worked so hard on ourselves and then we just cross paths. We both have 6 pack, made so much money and it just worked.