I’m an 18F and have been with my 19M boyfriend for about two years. He’s the only person I’ve ever been with. Sexually, I’m very submissive and I really enjoy that dynamic. The issue is that my boyfriend prefers when I’m the dominant one. While I’m naturally dominant in my everyday life, I don’t enjoy taking that role in the bedroom. I do it for him sometimes, but it’s hard for me because it doesn’t turn me on.
I really want to experience a D/s relationship where I feel controlled, but that just doesn’t seem to be his personality. I do love him, though, and I don’t want to give up on us. Is this something we can work through or find a compromise on, or is it a fundamental incompatibility that might mean breaking up?
Are kinks something you absolutely need to align on for a relationship to work?