How are y’all dating while still living with ur parents ?

12 comments

1. I had to move back in with my family at 23 because of the COVID pandemic. Just now moving out at 28.

   Gonna be real with you. I didn’t successfully date in those 5 years.

2. I’m not. 🙁

3. With my ex her mum was respectful enough that if she heard anything from her bedroom she would be respectful enough to pretend she didn’t hear anything and the same would go when my ex was at my house

4. Where I came from it was pretty common for people to get hotel rooms on date nights, so no I dont think it is weird at all personally. With that being said I completely feel your pain. I am living with my folks right now and my dating life is practically nonexistent.

5. Omg yes I am really struggling with this after a year of living alone and now moving back in with my mum. Tbh I’ve had a lot of making out and fooling around a bit in cars (more than I ever had as a teenager) and going to their place when their parents are out as my home situation isnt ideal for guests (long story). I looked at hotels but its just not sustainable. Luckily the guy im seeing now his parents are very chilled with having me round and not making it a big deal and they are out quite a bit with their other children so that helps.

   But honestly its really awkward

6. we aren’t unfortunately :/ if one of you had your own place, it works a lot better but if neither of you do then it’s really difficult

7. Dating? Im not even getting a text back, but that might be just from being unattractive 🤣. I don’t think getting a hotel room is too forward tho. As someone who did date in high-school it kinda depends on how big your house is. When I went to my HS girlfriends house it was pretty big and there were three levels. She had a finished basement and that’s where we spent most of our time so we had a lot of privacy. At my house though, it’s small and the basement is a dungeon so we were always in the living room and my mom could hear anything we were doing. If one of you has a house that allows you to escape to a private area, I don’t see the issue with that. I think people tend to look down on people living at their parents’ place in their mid twenties so much that we don’t realize that it’s a pretty common thing and different situations create that reality.

8. So, I haven’t lived with my parents in quite some time, but they always taught me sexuity is healthy and a human need, so if I never brought anyone home they were constantly checking in with me to check I was okay.
   You might be surprised at your parents response.  They were 23 once too. Though probably not this century 😂

9. Not weird at all. Lots of people in their 20s do the hotel thing for privacy. Just frame it as a fun little getaway and it’ll feel romantic, not awkward.

10. I’m living with parents too and as a mid 30s guy its something that I’m a little ashamed of (it’s so I can save money for a deposit for a mortgage, Id prefer to not be renting because here are insane) and I thought it would put a lot of women off but so far everyone that I’ve spoken with has been really understanding about it.

    Most of the people I’ve dated have had their own place, there’s only one that hasn’t so we did get a hotel room a few times, I don’t think it’s something that’s weird or anything like that, you just deal with the hand you’re dealt so if you’re wanting that privacy to just be alone together (I can’t speak for everyone but when me and the woman I dated got a hotel room while it was partly so we could have sex, at least part of it was so we could have that intimacy of being together just the two of us without other people around) a hotel is a perfectly reasonable option

11. Fr like it must be awkward

12. I’m m25. I’ve had my own place for the last few years but haven’t had single date over.