My boyfriend (22m) and I (22f) have attempted to have sex around 3-4 times now, with no luck. At first, he was just struggling to finish, and now he can’t stay hard.
Before we first tried to become sexually active (we were both virgins when we met), we’d sext a lot, and he never had any issue keeping an erection or finishing when he was sexting with me, but whenever we’ve been trying to have sex, he just can’t seem to stay hard or finish. He’s so frustrated and embarrassed and disappointed that he doesn’t even wanna try to have sex anymore. He said he’s afraid I’ll think less of him or that I’ll leave him, which is not true at all because I genuinely love him and I want this to work out. He said he’s experiencing a lot of performance anxiety, and that he’s afraid he’ll hurt me. He’s also said that whenever he’s not immediately good or perfect at something he has the tendency to just give up.
I guess I just wanted to know if there anyway I could help him? How can I ease his anxiety and his fear? How can I make him feel more comfortable with me? I want to keep trying, but I’m afraid of failing again because I know that’ll just crush him even more. I genuinely just don’t know what to do. How can I make him feel better about himself and his ability to please me?