Age and genders:22, females
I’ve been struggling with something really challenging, and I want to share in case anyone here relates. I have a hard time managing my energy, pacing myself, and regulating my emotions in friendships and relationships. It often turns into a cycle I can’t seem to break — I’ll get intensely attached, or even develop a big crush on a fairly new friend, and then I end up overwhelming them and pushing them away. It’s left me feeling really alone lately since most of the people I cared about have pulled back.
As embarrassing as it is to admit, I don’t really know what this pattern is called or how to start healing from it. Has anyone else gone through this kind of obsessive attachment with friends or new relationships? If so, how did you work through it, or what helped you start to heal?
And just to be clear, I do plan on bringing this up with my new therapist, so I don’t need advice on that part. I’m more curious if anyone here has lived experience with this and can share insight or encouragement.
TL;DR: I get overly attached to new friends (sometimes crush-level), end up pushing people away, and now feel alone — anyone else deal with this or have tips on healing?
Thanks for reading 💙