19f have a boyfriend 18m
Recently got an IUD and before then we always always used condoms. He’s always lasted an indefinite amount of time during PiV. To cum like that he needs to thrust in a really specific way for a while and focus on it. But with blowjobs and my hand he’s always came really easy. PiV has always lasted as long as I wanted it to. Usually I finish him with my hands or mouth after.
We tried without a condom yesterday and I think it was over in 3 minutes if even. It felt so much better and I was looking forward to it and was NOT expecting it to be over that soon and yes we did go again and same thing happened.
I asked him about it and he said it’s just an entirely different thing. Night and day in terms of sensation and feelings also mentally knowing he was going to get to cum into me really got him ready to blow the moment we started he said he was fighting it. Also he didn’t mention this but I think part of the reason he can go so long with the condoms is that he’s got bit of a longer foreskin. Not tight or anything just longer a bit than average. It covers the head mostly still when hard unless rolled back, but he always has it rolled up when he puts the condom on because it apparent doesn’t sit right with it down.
The reason why I’m wondering about this is maybe he’s just really not used to it because he’s heads been basically double blocked whereas raw it’s fully exposed with the skin gliding back and forth. So it just means he needs to get used to that part and he can go exactly back to before times but with no condom? Like it’s not that just being inside is too stimulating on its own because that sounds like a longer term problem, but it’s specifically due to how new it is as a feeling. Like before he basically wasn’t feeling it properly, so after a few more goes he’s going to be going non stop again? Or if the heads the problem, I can’t imagine how BUT just in case someone knows is there a way he can keep the skin up as he slides into me? So he can go raw because I like that more but it might stop him getting stimulated too much? Just throwing ideas out.
Also if it’s partly mental, should I calm/change the dirty talk? I asked after he put it in if he thinks he can cum with it now raw and he said yes and I remind him to do it inside me but i meant like you know when I tell you to not 2 minutes from now and I told him when I cum I want him to give me it but I never actually got to that point during. Because I thought it was like before he can control when he does.