Why is the “what are you looking for” question so confusing?!? I am dating w intention and looking for a long term relationship. I don’t do ons or hookups. Not judging those who are in that phase of their life, but for me personally, I’ve got zero interest. So when I ask dates what they’re looking for and they answer w/ abstract stuff like “I’m looking for a connection” or “friends and see where it goes”, it’s so confusing to me. Like I’m not looking for someone rando to just marry tomorrow, of course there needs to be a connection and of course you start as friends and then grow feelings so I’m not sure if what they’re saying is a cop out for I’m looking to get laid w no commitment or that I’m looking for a LTR but want it to be organic. How do u deal w that question? I simply don’t want to waste time w people who aren’t eyeing the same goal as me.