27M. 2 weeks back, I reconnected with a F(24) I knew from a 3 years back. Found out she was single so I contacted her. She asked me for my numbers, we met up and spent time together 4 days later
It was my birthday on Friday and she came over. We were intimate all day and she professed her love for me (she said “I love you”). Everything was good. I hadn’t seen her until today since my birthday
Today, we weren’t doing much. Just sat in a park. She mentioned that she can’t be with someone who makes less than her and her father’s standard of living for her must be usurped by her partner. I asked “so love isn’t important?” She rephrased what she said but I wasn’t too convinced.
30 min go by and we’re talking about when we were intimate and brings up the fact that the last person before her was only a week prior to me contacting her. She then says that she’s uncomfortable with the fact that I was unprotected with her and the previous girl. Fair point in my opinion!
I try talking to her and she then says she’s upset because she’s the rebound to which I ask “are you trying to make an excuse to leave me?” She gets even more upset because I asked her that
I try to talk about what’s going on, she closes off and chooses not to communicate just saying “I’m fine “. Then keeps saying she wants me to drop her off.
Over text, when I bring up this conversation, she tells me the following: “You aren’t understanding me” (keep in mind I was constantly asking her what’s going on, reassuring her that she isn’t a rebound and telling her I understand why she’s upset) “Why do I feel like you’re gaslighting me?” “That doesn’t make it better” (me writing a paragraph about how I take her seriously and she’s not a rebound)
The way she handled it made me feel like she doesn’t want to continue which isn’t a big deal to me but I’m drained and she’s draining me now too with how she’s talking. I have it easy getting into relationships but keeping them is always tricky for me