So we have been dating for 4 years. He was also super caring and sweet to me during this time. And yeah we had some problems sometimes, but we were always able to get passed it.
And recently we had a talk and he said at some point in time he saw my mom in a night gown and he was attracted to her in it. And I want to clarify my mom is not someone you would typical consider hot. She’s in her 50s very much overweight and is not very shapely.(mostly just round) I’m really trying to be nice as I can when I say these things. She’s had a medical condition that hasn’t let her get out and exercise in years. Anyways she also where’s those night gowns that are very much what u would see a grandma wearing. In no way are they sexy. Maybe sometimes they would have like something stupid on it like cartoon animal. But still in my eyes seems unsexy.
He said that after the first time of him seeing her like that basically in so many words he liked what he saw. But he felt like it was wrong and after that point when ever she would wear stuff like that around him he would try to ignore it. He said at some point in time the feelings went away. But then maybe like a year or or like a year and a half ago. He said he was really high off of weed. (Which weed makes him super horny.) He decided to watch porn. And while he was scrolling through he saw a women wearing a nightgown that had the same body shape as my mom. And he immediately thought of her in that moment. And he watched the video. And ever since then he’s been thinking about her.
And I do think him being high had a lot to do with him not just ignoring the video and scrolling. But it’s like now he has an attraction that’s been going on for at least a year now. He said he doesn’t like her at all. He said he doesn’t like her emotionally or physically. And he said after the video, when he was with her in person he never felt attracted to her. Just those few times before the video. However sometimes when he is alone he has thoughts about her.
Ik it weird. But I also want to say we’ve been together for a long time. And we are basically each other first for a lot of things. We were each others first real long term relationships. We were each others first sexual partners. Like he said he saw her as family. But ig when he watched the video he kind of thought of it like step mom porn and that’s where everything kind of went down hill.
And again ik it weird. But I really do believe he made a bad decision based on him being on weed. I also think it has a lot to do with him having a porn addiction. But he really feels guilty about it and is really trying to keep our relationship going.
And idk what I should do or think in this situation?