I’ve been trying to reinvent myself as I approach middle age (39M) and I’m trying to put more effort into finding a partner.
I use the typical apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) and get lots of matches and go out on dates, but I’ve never really tried approaching women in the real world because I’ve never really had to. I’ve had enough success on the apps that I never really bothered going after women out in public.
The thing is, I see a lot of beautiful women out and about and never really know how or when to approach them. I’m not shy, and I can confidently hold a conversation, but how do you start it when you know nothing about them?
In real life, you really can only go by a woman’s looks until you learn about them; it’s not like there is a profile to read.
My physical ‘type’ is probably many other guys' type too. It’s obviously her looks that catch my initial attention, but how do I make it clear that I actually want to know more about her too.
I've average looking; I've been called a 7/10 many times by women I trust. So whilst I'm not good looking enough to get by just on looks, I feel like I look good enough to stand on my own merit. How does one do this? How do you compact all of this into a tiny bit of flirty small talk that lasts minutes?
I find this somewhat difficult. Where do you do it? What do you say?
Any advice from those who who prefer approaching in public?