I'm (32M) so tired of hearing all the women around me (friends, colleagues, coworkers, etc) telling me that I'm "handsome", a "good catch" or anything of the sort, while I'm sitting over here continuing to be single.
I hate being told these things, and not even having a single women show romantic interest in me. And I'm also sick and tired of the people around me (especially the women) telling me that I am the crazy one, or (their words) the "desperate" one, despite the fact that they are contributing to it.
I can, honestly, say I am NOT desperate for a partner. Do I want one? Absolutely. Do I need one? No. I am completely fine with being single (to an extent). I mean, I've been single pretty much my entire life, minus the 1-year relationship that ended a few months ago. I spent 31 years single, before I met my recent ex. But now that I'm single again, it just feels like I'll never find a relationship again.
When I go out, I can't really meet women, because they're usually with friends, and I've always been told that's a terrible time to approach them, as they are usually just out wanting to be with the friends, and not trying to meet men. And dating apps suck, for me. Mind you, I've been told by those same friends, colleagues, coworkers, etc that my photos and prompts on the apps are fine, and that I "look great" in them.
But still, I am called "desperate" for voicing how I feel about it. And the worst part of it is, the people who tell me this ALL have partners. Hell, some of those people have even told me "Love is overrated" and "I shouldn't want to be in a relationship, because they're a pain, anyway."
It's like they don't realize how insensitive AND contradictory these statements are, especially when it's coming from people who HAVE partners. But, again, if I mention this, I'm either "desperate" or "complaining too much".
Again, I know I don't need a partner. But I also don't believe that me wanting one makes me "desperate", either. It almost feels like the people who say these comments to me are just saying it to shut me up, because they can't empathize with how I feel about the situation. (You know, because they already have partners) And the ones who say the CAN empathize with me, are people who have had multiple past relationship experiences. I've only ever had ONE.
Sorry. I just needed to vent this out, because keeping it in was going to make me want to scream at the world.