Wife and I have been on the fritz and been on divorces door step several times over the years for context. We're basically roommates with neither of us really happy but not to the point of divorce particularly bc neither of us want to be away from our only kid (4). I know staying together for the kid isn't a great reason but we're not terrible to each other and have worked things out and at times can be loving and be doing great so things are tolerable.
This morning she comes at me and says "Why are you even here? You don't contribute anything to the house, you don't care about me, my feelings, my needs, i do all the cooking, cleaning etc etc" basically fighting words. And yes, she's said/ done this numerous times before.
I won't go into how i responded but wanted to know what others response would've been.