Me and my wife have been together for 18 years. I’m not going to say that I’m perfect. Who is? I’ve been trying to make the changes that she’s asked. In the 3 months since my dad died I’ve refocused. I’ve been doing everything she’s asked me to do. My communication needs work still but I’m trying.
I’m trying to understand. I came to the realization that the little things that I always said that she was nagging me about are not little things. They were the proverbial straw. I apologized for saying that I thought she was nagging me. I understood where I went wrong and was owning up to it.
I’m trying to be the best man that I can for myself, my wife and our marriage. She said that she was proud of me for all the changes.
Today we had a miscommunication about me leaving for an appointment. She thought I’d canceled it but I didn’t. When I got home, she ripped into me because one of our dogs was 2 hours late taking an antibiotic she’s on. I understand that this was one of the proverbial straws and I was trying to be understanding. I admitted that I was at fault for the situation.
Long story short she tells me she’s done. She told me to cancel our couples therapy appointment for next week. She said that she knows I resent her (for what I have no idea) I told her that I don’t resent her for a thing and she said that she resents me for about 1000 things but didn’t elaborate. That was at about 2 pm. It’s 935 pm right now. She’s blocked me on everything and locked herself in the master bedroom and won’t talk to me. I have no idea what to do at this point.
I don’t know if I’m asking for advice or just needed to rant. I don’t have any friends that I can talk to.