What is the most intimate, non-sex thing you do with your partner?
August 13, 2025
What is the most intimate, non-sex thing you do with your partner?
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Confirming or denying if the other one has a hemmorhoid or needs to go to the doctor for butt stuff. The final boss of trusting another human being.
Hair washing probably. Or washing in general.
Me and my partner shave (we both hate the feeling of not being clean shaven downstairs) and after we shave we check each other to see if we missed anything it was weird at first at least for me lol
i once had a full mental breakdown in front of my ex. i was on the floor, completely shattered and he kissed every tear that rolled down my cheeks, wiping them away while holding me. in that moment, it felt like the gentlest, purest kind of love but looking back now, it’s just a memory i can’t go back to
Have meaningful conversations. I’ve never felt so comfortable and safe with another person before in my life, and my husband has said he feels the same. Whether it’s sharing really difficult and vulnerable things, discussing our thoughts and opinions on various topics, being silly and dorky and sharing jokes no one else would get, talking about our nerdy interests, or simply being verbally affectionate, that’s definitely the most intimate thing we do that isn’t sex. Well, and non-sexual physical intimacy as well of course (hugs, cuddles, massages, etc.).
Him showing me his journals and drawings. Generally him drawing me a lot.
Lots of hugs and cuddles, and talking about our future, things we look forward to, every night before sleeping
I am most unhinged in front of my spouse. Like I speak about the wildest of the things which I will not dare to speak in front of anyone, no walking on eggshells and then we laugh at it together 🤣🤣🧿
And assessing each others dry skin during winters by using our nails to draw those white lines
Eating a good meal together
Entering in the bathroom while shitting.
what partner where partner
We have baths together and I wash her hair and then brush her hair and I love giving her bum rubs one time we massage each other’s butts so hard with her elbows that we could hardly walk the next day really struck a nerve I’m guessing lol
After I gave birth to my second one, husband helped me with my shower including dry everything off, dressed me up. After my husband back surgery, I did the same thing. We’ve been together since we were 19, and he never failed taking care of me. Back then, every time I got wasted, he will make sure that my hair was safe from my nasty 🤮 .
Deep meaningful conversations. About religion, genders, people, the best type of cheese like it doesn’t matter him and I have talks about it or will talk about it. There is something really intimate about knowing all of them. Like maybe we know to much haha, like I know every ex and what kind of sex they had. Honestly though it’s led to feeling incredibly comfortable with him, because hes human with all of his perfectly perfect imperfections. I’m incredibly lucky to be marrying my best friend and partner.
Looking into each other’s eyes, not saying a word, just silently feeling each other’s feelings. 💞
When we almost broke up, we both sobbed. And I mean really sobbed like babies, snot, tears, the whole thing, while holding each other. That was a different kind of vulnerability
This is not something I have experienced (yet) but a friend told me that they do this with their partner and I want it for myself- they take turns reading to each other. Usually lounging, head in lap, sort of deal. I want thisssss
Moisturizing eachothers backs
Having deep conversations about feelings
for me, telling my boyfriend about the lore of the book i‘m writing felt really personal
After the end of the day, sometimes we lay down on our back on the floor, let our heads touch, and just *be*
My husband was a firefighter for 34 years. Many times he came home after a tragic situation and I would just sit and listen and hug and support.
I lost my first love and best friend of 14+ years and he supported my grieving process.
Before he passed, my husband and I had a number of talks about said friend, relating to some insecurity on my husband’s part. They’d never met, but we had plans to get together in a month.
I’ve lost people before – I’ve screamed or held it in, cried a bit, then typically moved on with my healing process quite calmly.
After he passed, I shut down for weeks. For the first week, I couldn’t make it more than a couple hours without exploding into tears. I was numb to everything and my family wasn’t helping by trying to shove their condolences down my throat (having been very familiar with the friend and his family, from when we dated). Despite us being together for 6 years, he had no idea how to handle this side of me.
My husband has done so much to support me, but the space and love he gave me after my loss really shines, to me.
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Fight
When my beautiful wife was 8 months pregnant with our little girl, I used to paint her toes. She couldn’t reach and it was getting her down. So i offered to help her out. it turns out to be one of my favourite non sexual but very intimate things to do with my wife.
Paid bills
Hold hands.
Listen
She’s taking a shit and I’m just standing at wash basin chatting with her.
sitting next to eachother while peeling pomelos for eachother. him scratching my back til i fall asleep. reading to eachother
When he washes my back.
Laying in a hammock together.
In labor and in the tub while he had his head against mine. Not even talking just connected and calming me.
This is a bit of TMI, but it was our first night together after being apart for a couple of months. (Yes, we’re in a long distance relationship) It was also the second day of my period. We were in a hotel, and even though I wore the longest pad I could find, I still had a leak and a small drop of blood ended up on the white hotel bed sheet.
I literally panicked when I saw it, but my partner stayed calm and started cleaning the sheet with me. Even though we were both exhausted from traveling, he had just come from a 12-hour flight and mine was 6 hours, he told me to just take care of myself while he handled the stain.
By the time I came back from my shower, the spot was completely gone. Still, I did not feel comfortable sleeping on the bed anymore. I insisted on sleeping on the leather sofa instead, because I was thinking it would be easier to clean if there was another leak. The sofa was not that big, but he did not want to sleep alone and wanted to be next to me.
I also wanted to sleep next to him, but I did not want to tire him out or risk another mess so I kept saying no when he was asking me to sleep in the bed, but in the end, we ended up curling up together on that small couch, holding each other and trying not to fall, despite booking the room with the biggest bed.
This is very intimate for me because I never felt so much care and comfort. I didn’t even have to ask him anything. Even at the moment, as I type this, it is my time of the month and we are apart again, but since I was not feeling well and I don’t have any appetite, he made sure to order my favourite food so I could eat. Last month, before his flight, he also walked so long just to find a Chinese herbal store just to buy me medicine because I always have the worst cramps.
My husband takes my nail polish off for me if my hands are hurting too much to do it myself (arthritis).
But also, shower together and its JUST a shower, sharing a bathroom in general.
Bite him. Not in a sexual way. I just like to bite his muscles, they are very nice hehe.
Last week I had a boil on the back of my thigh, right below my buttcheek, my girlfriend nursed me for a whole week, cleaning it and putting bandages on it. It was an ugly scene and was absolutely certain of her love after that.
Going through death in the family, the whole process of losing a close relative and having someone be with you during that time is one of the most intimate things, imo.
37 comments
Confirming or denying if the other one has a hemmorhoid or needs to go to the doctor for butt stuff. The final boss of trusting another human being.
Hair washing probably. Or washing in general.
Me and my partner shave (we both hate the feeling of not being clean shaven downstairs) and after we shave we check each other to see if we missed anything it was weird at first at least for me lol
i once had a full mental breakdown in front of my ex. i was on the floor, completely shattered and he kissed every tear that rolled down my cheeks, wiping them away while holding me. in that moment, it felt like the gentlest, purest kind of love but looking back now, it’s just a memory i can’t go back to
Have meaningful conversations. I’ve never felt so comfortable and safe with another person before in my life, and my husband has said he feels the same. Whether it’s sharing really difficult and vulnerable things, discussing our thoughts and opinions on various topics, being silly and dorky and sharing jokes no one else would get, talking about our nerdy interests, or simply being verbally affectionate, that’s definitely the most intimate thing we do that isn’t sex. Well, and non-sexual physical intimacy as well of course (hugs, cuddles, massages, etc.).
Him showing me his journals and drawings. Generally him drawing me a lot.
Lots of hugs and cuddles, and talking about our future, things we look forward to, every night before sleeping
I am most unhinged in front of my spouse. Like I speak about the wildest of the things which I will not dare to speak in front of anyone, no walking on eggshells and then we laugh at it together 🤣🤣🧿
And assessing each others dry skin during winters by using our nails to draw those white lines
Eating a good meal together
Entering in the bathroom while shitting.
what partner where partner
We have baths together and I wash her hair and then brush her hair and I love giving her bum rubs one time we massage each other’s butts so hard with her elbows that we could hardly walk the next day really struck a nerve I’m guessing lol
After I gave birth to my second one, husband helped me with my shower including dry everything off, dressed me up. After my husband back surgery, I did the same thing. We’ve been together since we were 19, and he never failed taking care of me. Back then, every time I got wasted, he will make sure that my hair was safe from my nasty 🤮 .
Deep meaningful conversations. About religion, genders, people, the best type of cheese like it doesn’t matter him and I have talks about it or will talk about it. There is something really intimate about knowing all of them. Like maybe we know to much haha, like I know every ex and what kind of sex they had. Honestly though it’s led to feeling incredibly comfortable with him, because hes human with all of his perfectly perfect imperfections. I’m incredibly lucky to be marrying my best friend and partner.
Looking into each other’s eyes, not saying a word, just silently feeling each other’s feelings. 💞
When we almost broke up, we both sobbed. And I mean really sobbed like babies, snot, tears, the whole thing, while holding each other. That was a different kind of vulnerability
This is not something I have experienced (yet) but a friend told me that they do this with their partner and I want it for myself- they take turns reading to each other. Usually lounging, head in lap, sort of deal. I want thisssss
Moisturizing eachothers backs
Having deep conversations about feelings
for me, telling my boyfriend about the lore of the book i‘m writing felt really personal
After the end of the day, sometimes we lay down on our back on the floor, let our heads touch, and just *be*
My husband was a firefighter for 34 years. Many times he came home after a tragic situation and I would just sit and listen and hug and support.
I lost my first love and best friend of 14+ years and he supported my grieving process.
Before he passed, my husband and I had a number of talks about said friend, relating to some insecurity on my husband’s part. They’d never met, but we had plans to get together in a month.
I’ve lost people before – I’ve screamed or held it in, cried a bit, then typically moved on with my healing process quite calmly.
After he passed, I shut down for weeks. For the first week, I couldn’t make it more than a couple hours without exploding into tears. I was numb to everything and my family wasn’t helping by trying to shove their condolences down my throat (having been very familiar with the friend and his family, from when we dated). Despite us being together for 6 years, he had no idea how to handle this side of me.
My husband has done so much to support me, but the space and love he gave me after my loss really shines, to me.
[removed]
Fight
When my beautiful wife was 8 months pregnant with our little girl, I used to paint her toes. She couldn’t reach and it was getting her down. So i offered to help her out. it turns out to be one of my favourite non sexual but very intimate things to do with my wife.
Paid bills
Hold hands.
Listen
She’s taking a shit and I’m just standing at wash basin chatting with her.
sitting next to eachother while peeling pomelos for eachother. him scratching my back til i fall asleep. reading to eachother
When he washes my back.
Laying in a hammock together.
In labor and in the tub while he had his head against mine. Not even talking just connected and calming me.
This is a bit of TMI, but it was our first night together after being apart for a couple of months. (Yes, we’re in a long distance relationship) It was also the second day of my period. We were in a hotel, and even though I wore the longest pad I could find, I still had a leak and a small drop of blood ended up on the white hotel bed sheet.
I literally panicked when I saw it, but my partner stayed calm and started cleaning the sheet with me. Even though we were both exhausted from traveling, he had just come from a 12-hour flight and mine was 6 hours, he told me to just take care of myself while he handled the stain.
By the time I came back from my shower, the spot was completely gone. Still, I did not feel comfortable sleeping on the bed anymore. I insisted on sleeping on the leather sofa instead, because I was thinking it would be easier to clean if there was another leak. The sofa was not that big, but he did not want to sleep alone and wanted to be next to me.
I also wanted to sleep next to him, but I did not want to tire him out or risk another mess so I kept saying no when he was asking me to sleep in the bed, but in the end, we ended up curling up together on that small couch, holding each other and trying not to fall, despite booking the room with the biggest bed.
This is very intimate for me because I never felt so much care and comfort. I didn’t even have to ask him anything. Even at the moment, as I type this, it is my time of the month and we are apart again, but since I was not feeling well and I don’t have any appetite, he made sure to order my favourite food so I could eat. Last month, before his flight, he also walked so long just to find a Chinese herbal store just to buy me medicine because I always have the worst cramps.
My husband takes my nail polish off for me if my hands are hurting too much to do it myself (arthritis).
But also, shower together and its JUST a shower, sharing a bathroom in general.
Bite him. Not in a sexual way. I just like to bite his muscles, they are very nice hehe.
Last week I had a boil on the back of my thigh, right below my buttcheek, my girlfriend nursed me for a whole week, cleaning it and putting bandages on it. It was an ugly scene and was absolutely certain of her love after that.
Going through death in the family, the whole process of losing a close relative and having someone be with you during that time is one of the most intimate things, imo.