TLDR: how common is it to stay good friends (or even “best friends) with an ex?
The person I’m seeing (“Jamie”) has a very close relationship with their ex. The ex lives in a different city but they text almost every day and often call. Their relationship lasted 5+ years and ended 3 years ago when the ex cheated on Jamie. Jamie says that they aren’t interested in being in a relationship with their ex again, but that the ex will remain a part of Jamie’s life forever (both have been in other relationships since breaking up, although the ex is currently single). Jamie also currently has a pet that they got with their ex, so there’s that connection too (sharing health updates, etc).
have you ever stayed close friends with a long-term (serious relationship) ex and had it truly be platonic and not romantic or suggestive of “something more”? Sometimes I feel uneasy about the level of closeness but I also am someone who has kept in touch with some people I’ve hooked up with/dated — just no one that I was with for that long of a period or keep up with that regularly.