yeah it sounds crazy but it was one of the best hookups I’ve ever had. I love the way she looks, I love the sound of her voice, I love that she kept saying how hot she thought I look. then I thought oh well, just another hookup. then she texts me like a month later saying how good it was and how she wishes we could hook up again. fast forward a couple months later and I’m in a country near her country so I text her asking if she’s still single and saying I’m considering visiting her city and she says she’s single and I should definitely come and how she’s so excited by the idea of me coming back. I go there anddd she says she’s busy for the whole week because she took a bunch of overtime at work but keeps sending me voice messages saying she wants to meet me so bad and she’ll meet me as soon as she’s free. so I’m literally just hanging around in hostels in this city for days just so I can see her again and finally she says she can meet me Friday. an hour later she texts me back saying actually she can’t cuz her best friend is coming back then and she’s gonna hang out with her. so I say how about we just meet earlier in the day before she gets back? and she straight up tells me she can’t because she’s getting her nails done. how about the weekend? nope, weekend is family time. I’m leaving now and I can’t believe I just willingly wasted a week of my life for something so stupid…


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  3. Op should have bailed after 2 days. She was all tall and it was just a tease and a waste of your time.

    Lesson learnt for next time.

  4. She played you for a fool bro. Even if her intentions were pure, her actions weren’t and she disrespected you. More importantly, you allowed the disrespect and stuck around for no reason.

  5. Take this as a lesson, a good hookup doesn’t mean respect. Look at what they do, not say. Next time if she’s so desperate to see you she’ll come to you instead.

  6. Take this as a lesson, a good hookup doesn’t mean respect. Look at what they do, not say. Next time if she’s so desperate to see you she’ll come to you instead.

  7. Maybe it was some sort of revenge. Not a complete waste. You got to visit a new country. And if it did happen it would have been epic so it was worth the shot.

  8. Look plans change and a hookup isn’t that high on anyone’s to-do list. For you the cost is high because you made a special detour to meet up. But for her it’s still just a hookup it doesn’t matter if you live next door or the next continent away.

  9. I made a similar mistake… despite what anyone here says, this can happen to anyone.

    I spent two weeks with someone in another country. She was smart, fun, bubbly, passionate, loved everything about her. At my age, I was awe struck I had such a fresh experience, never imagined it possible at this point in my life.

    So, I went back. Partially because I did love everything about the country but favored heavily by wanting to spend more time with this person. She was suddenly busy the first four days and when we finally met, she was dramatically different. Oddly drowsy, slept 12 hours at a time, seemed to wake up only to eat when I cooked and then watch TV. Can’t express my disappointment when she blurted she could stay for a few more nights. Omg.

    Anyway, point being, you just won’t do this again. You can still reflect happily on the prior visit.

  10. I would recommend using something like the passport feature of Tinder, and arrange some backups if it were me. Also even if you got your one more hookup that’s still a lot of downtime. I’ve had a girlfriend for 5 years now, but that’s what I used to do. Now everywhere I go everyone tells me how awesome my girlfriend is, and I agree so my Tinder days are over.

  11. Hmm, is prostitution legal where you’re at? I’d get going on hooking that up before you come home

  14. What city btw. That could be the difference between a crap experience vs an awesome one. Say Barca or Florence would be way better than say Frankfurt or Moscow.

  15. > yeah it sounds crazy but it was one of the best hookups I’ve ever had.

    Doesn’t sound crazy at all. The bat-shit crazy ones are always the best hookups!

  16. Nothing wrong with it, just next time plan things to do yourself so it doesn’t seem like a waste. Then you look at it like “ that was a great vacation even without getting laid”

  17. Crossing from Brownsville into Matamoros. Not that big of a deal. Sure. It’s “another country.” The hookup is cheap. No matter what.

  18. I am so sorry you had to face this, but it is also funny that you put yourself through this.

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