I (26M) have been on 3 really good dates with this guy (25M), on the third date he told me he’s in an open relationship with a girlfriend of 6 years. I’m upset he didn’t mention it in the beginning because I am strictly monogamous. However, I did mention to him that I’m not looking for anything serious currently. I asked him about his open relationship because to me it sounds like he’s looking to hook up with multiple people. I told him I don’t want to hook up with him if he’s seeking other people besides me and his girlfriend. So basically if he starts seeing someone else I would like to call the quits with this. He seemed to receive that well and understood but now I’m not sure if I could really trust him since he didn’t mention his open relationship right away. I’m also worried about developing feelings if this lasts longer than it should. I’m curious to know from people who have successfully had a consistent hook up, what are some boundaries/rules you hold for yourself to make sure you’re separating hooking up vs not entering anything serious. He has met two of my friends so far and when we hung out, he had his arms around me the whole night which felt he was claiming me as his boyfriend. I feel weird only meeting to just hook up, but is that what needs to happen to make this successful? We have both expressed that we don’t like hooking up with complete strangers and like to get to know the person before things happen which is why we’ve been doing on dates/hanging with friends. Maybe after knowing each other enough we cut off the hang outs and dates? I don’t know. Let me know your thoughts.
Thank you🥲