I also posted this in another subreddit but really struggling with what to do so I’m also posting here, I hope that’s okay?
So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years, we were supposed to take a trip to city in France together (he’s been before, it would be my first time), but the whole trip is in jeopardy because of my lack of care.
Over the weekend we had a bad fight, I went out with a friend to a concert and got a bit drunk. Because of this, I wasn’t able to check in/keep him in the loop every hour like he’s asked of me in the past. It’s not the first time I’ve failed to communicate (we’ve fought about this a fair few times), and he’s saying he feels like the lowest priority in my life.
I know it was fuck up but I was just trying to stay in the moment and I never really thought to message him (which is why he’s upset). Over Saturday evening he sent me over a 100 messages telling me how upset he is, that I’m a selfish person that has never cared about him and that he doesn’t understand what he’s done wrong.
We’re not really speaking now, I’m not sure what to do. He also told me he’s felt so alone this summer, as we’re in different countries (in Europe). I’ve tried to show that I care by ordering him dinner, or recently I surprised him with some energy drinks because he’s been struggling with tiredness. I thought it would be enough, or at least make a different but that’s not something that shows care as it takes less than a minute to do.
We did try to call but I struggle with staying up at night right now as I work around 45 hours a week. I’d either miss calls, not feel up to much or fall asleep on them. And I really do feel bad when I do that.
I was really looking forward to this trip with him, and now I feel like I’ve ruined everything again. He’s forgiven me so many times, and I never wanted him to feel like I don’t care.
So I really need some advice on how I can prove to him that I do care, and that he isn’t a low priority for me. What are some ways that I can properly demonstrate that I care?
TL;DR: Went to a concert, didn’t check in with my long-distance boyfriend like he wanted. He’s very upset, says I don’t care, and our planned France trip is now at risk. Need advice on how to show I do care.