This happened today, my bf and I were play fighting in his bed. Like pushing each other, poking each other, etc., and I lightly bit his nose. Like opened my whole mouth over it and playfully bit it. I thought I was just being silly. We’ve done that before. He choked me immediately after I did it. Like put his full hand around the front of my neck and squeezed. It wasn’t necessarily hard enough to prevent all air flow, but it was constricting enough that I panicked and tried to push him off of me. He just did it harder. I was saying his name and telling him to stop. He stopped after abt 30 seconds but in the moment it felt longer.
Afterwards he said it was bc I had hurt him when I bit his nose, and then he bit my nose harder than I think I did to him, and told me we were even. I turned away from him in bed and just laid there on my phone. We didn’t talk for around ten minutes, and then he apologized. I feel like sometimes he’s too rough and doesn’t realize I can’t really take that level of roughness. I was so stunned it didn’t sink in until I was trying to sleep tonight and couldn’t. I kind of want to cry about it. I’m kind of shook up.
What would be the right way to go abt this situation? I want to bring it up but at the same time I never want to think abt it again. He kind of has a temper and I think he was in a bad mood bc he we tried having sex twice and he couldn’t stay hard both times. The second time he punched the pillow right next to my head. We’re going long distance for college in two weeks and I think that’s a contributing factor. It’s been a bad day overall I think.
Edit:
I appreciate everyone’s responses, I’ve read all of them. I can’t really respond to all of them but I posted an update.