I want to make this relationship work without having to block my friends how would I get this outcome
I f27 have always had male friends from a young age, I have always been able to be platonic with my male friends and not cross boundaries. My boyfriend m28 has been cheated on previously and has some insecurities surrounding this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 18 months, at the beginning of us meeting I explained who my male friends are what the dynamics are and that I would love for him to meet them, he said he did not want to meet other men who spend one on one time with his girlfriend.
To provide some further context, while we were together one of my male friends turned around and said they liked me as more than a friend, as I didn’t reciprocate the feelings and was in a relationship the friendship ended and boyfriend was happy with this.
My boyfriend had an issue with one of my male friends and asked if me and the friend could talk less.
Fast forward to now and we had an argument (not about male friends) which lead to him saying things were ending, I was contacting saying I wanted to meet and talk through this but had also messaged friends just asking if they were available. I spoke to female friends regarding the issue and had messaged one of my male friends m31 who I have been friends with for 4 years to see if they were around but had not mentioned the argument. Me and boyfriend ended up meeting and then he saw the messages between me and my male friend and decided I’d gone running to a guy when we were about to break up and that I was disrespectful.
He’s said if I don’t block my friend we can’t be together.
There was no flirting or cheating involved, I can understand that he is hurt and insecure and my actions have lead to that but how do I explain that blocking my friend isn’t a healthy boundary.
I want this relationship to work but it seems like the only way in his eyes it will is if I block my friend and I’m unsure what to do, if there were any signs shown to me of flirting or feelings other than friendship I would understand but I’m just not sure where to go from here
I personally wouldn’t ask someone to block a friend or someone who has flirted they are in control of their behaviour and me asking them to block doesn’t change that.
TLDR
my boyfriend wants me to block my friend as he thinks that we were flirting and thinks I have cheated but this is not the case, I want us to work things out but how would I get to that.
Thank youuu