Guy brokeup with me after amazing weekend together…do I block him?
Guy Brokeup with me after amazing weekend together
We talked before meeting for about a month, he lives in another state from me so we planned for him to come meet me and stay in my town for a few days. I spent the whole time with him and everything was great, we had great chemistry.
He brought me several unexpected very thoughtful gifts that were based on things we had spoken about on the phone beforehand. Definitely got my attention and was so kind and considerate.
Two days after he went home he called me to tell me he didn’t think it would work because I don’t want kids and his family back home was pressuring him to have them and they don’t support the relationship.
He knew I didn’t want them before he even came here. I feel a bit deceived that he blindsided me after a great weekend together but I just said okay on the phone and that I hope he finds what he’s looking for.
I didn’t ask for any explanation for why he even came since he knew this before.
We had great sex all weekend and he was calling me baby. I don’t know if I was lovebombed and manipulated or this was genuine and he’s just had a change of heart due to family pressure.
I guess I just need to vent, I haven’t connected with anyone like this in awhile and really felt this could have led to a very special longterm relationship.
Should I remove/block from social media after this?
Part of me of course hopes he reconsiders still but obviously that’s unlikely and the relationship is now ruined anyway. So to remove or not?
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Sorry to say OP but I think he played you here, he knew you didn’t want kids and then it is suddenly a problem? What a cop out!
And you are better than waiting around for some loser to hopefully change his mind right?
Block, block, block!
If you are after the relationship, then yeah you should move on and block contact. If you are fine with just hooking up then keep talking to him, but it sounds like you don’t want that. He said/did what he needed to in order to get what he wanted and now he’s moved on. You should too.
If you feel like it would help you in some way, go for it. If you can find closure without blocking him, okay, but why would you want to keep him in your contacts then?
I’m sorry this happened to you. This is what guys are like these days. Online dating is basically unpaid prostitution. Unfortunately once they decide to ditch you nothing you can do to make it whole again. To protect yourself always block. Its not worth the emotional turmoil keeping them around
You hooked up with him, knowing you weren’t compatible? Did you think something else would happen? Lost.
Block him, unless you want up hookup again.
I know it hurts right now but look at it as you didn’t lose anything from this experience. He brought you gifts, you got great sex, and he traveled to you. Who knows what his intentions were but it doesn’t matter. Block him and find someone else who doesn’t want him kids.
Nah.. just don’t reply if he contacts you.
Of course you should block him. He led you on for sex. He knew before the trip that he was breaking up with you.
Take this as a lesson, don’t give up the goods too soon.
I feel very sorry you’ve been treated this way, ugh. I’d block him for sure.
Since you’re asking, yes. I was in a similar predicament though not this bad since we hadn’t met. And still it took a lot to actually delete him from the app.
If you want to heal and move on fast, you need to get rid of him. He’s an avoidant at best. You deserve more than that. You deserve someone who won’t run when you get close, when things become too intimate, and then ask for you back only to do the same thing all over again. Do you?
You should never block someone unless they are harassing you or crossing boundaries. You just had sex with this guy, what if he finds out he had an std and needs to tell you? What do you get out of blocking someone? Why do so many people just lost ‘block and move on’ as standard advice?
It doesn’t matter. If he didn’t manipulate you, then he was just too much of a softy feeling the pressure of his family. We don’t like softie like that, we want a real man. So either way he was not the perfect guy for you. Change your perspective, I know it feels bad right now but honestly if he needs to
A. Manipulate you, spend so much money and needs fo fly to another state just to get sex, that pretty pathetic. It makes him look like a failure of he needs that in order to get it. It happens, it feels like a game and conquer to some, but how stupid you must be to go all fhe way like that.
B. Get the pressure of his family get to him, he is also a failure. You need a man not a child. You are getting the ick from that okay
There is also a possibility that he has a woman already and she found out. But that timing is too much of a coincidence. So no i don’t think thats it
Keep your head up
One step closer to your perfect guy
You dodged a bullet. He was honest with you and showed you his true colors. I’d be grateful, take the moment, gifts and memories for what they were and keep it moving. Time is valuable and it sounds like y’all had a good time while it lasted. Way better it ended now, rather than later when more time and emotion could have been invested. Caught it early and he himself exited, didn’t waste your time or patience, you won. Take the win and process the sadness but also recognize the benefit of not dating a guy with no backbone.
Unfortunately a pretty classic move. He knew about the compatibility issue but wanted to make the most of the (potentially) sexual opportunity. Each side has their own issues, and this is a big one for men. Society has conditioned us to equate our value with body count, so dudes are out here doing mental gymnastics, lying, cheating, whatever to get that next notch. It’s weasely and sad.
The problem is part societal conditioning, part degradation of values. Imo, the solution on an individual level is for men to take extreme accountability for their sexual activity – ideally treating their reproductive power as something they’re responsible for (“with great power comes great responsibility”). It’s probably best for both parties to be crystal clear about where the relationship is heading – either serious or casual – before sex happens.
Classic avoidant.
People always are great at giving advice but not so much at taking it themselves. Ask yourself what you would advise your friend if she was in the exact same predicament? You’d probably tell her he’s a lousy piece of shit who took the cowardly way out. Either way, whether he was being truthful or not about his family disapproving of the relationship, it isn’t worth waiting for him
Yes! Block because all men do come crawling back just when you’re about to forget them. Don’t let him disturbe your peace.
Sometimes people show up in our life for a good time and not a long time. appreciate the relationship for what it was and move on. no need to block anyone
OP, what is the benefit of not blocking? The only one I can see is that in a few months, he can pop up with how he is back on the same page as you, tell you what you want to hear, get back in your good graces, have another awesome weekend and then go back and repeat.
All that happens is you get to feel this. Again.
So, you tell me honestly: what’s the benefit to not blocking?
so that was your “first date” so to speak, and he breaks up with you because you dont want children and he already knew that? and his family is pressuring him?
sounds like he made up all that as an excuse to break up, ridiculous excuse. I just think he used you for sex. the reason for the break up is lame IMO
blcok him if you want because maybe in a couple of months he will come back asking for more sex, that his familiy is not pressuring him anymore, that he doesnt care, whatever excuse he may come up with
Yall are just too easy, jesus
Definitely block him immediately
Block and move on. He’s a lying pos.
I wouldn’t block based on curiosity if he comes crawling back, might as well get some satisfaction when you never reply back.
You’ve been played. Some people are just predatory, and it happens to the best of us now and then. The sooner you can honestly admit to yourself that you’ve been played, own it, and move on, the better. No sex without commitment next time.
Why block when you can ignore?