So last week or so I wrote about a new potential relationship going on holiday to see another woman while we are in a non committed early stages
Sometimes you just have to let things play out and observe.
He said he told her he met me who actually wants the same thing as him a committed relationship as she didnt want anything serious. She flipped out, accused him of betrayal , almost left him stranded at a place. She continued to be accusatory, jealous, controlling. So much so his friend asked him to send his location, plans etc at all times to her to ensure hes safe.
And yet….and yet….again, the same situation happened to me that ALWAYS happened.
He came back from his holiday, we had a long phone call to discuss. I asked him would you go back to see her. He said not now but in the future , maybe.
This is when I realised that he has some serious feelings about her. And I am not competing with that. Someone mistreats you so much so, your friend is worried about you and your friend asked you not to go. But you are still unsure and you still want to work out the situation with her. Because all of a sudden she changed her mind about wanting a relationship now. It is manipulation 101, she is still in contact with her ex , she is still controlling but she now wants him so no one else can. Again, i can go by what he told me. But all this hit me like a ton of bricks.. Not because its him, but because it is a situation I always end up with.
He said he really values me, the guidance, the support, we are really similar, I am good hearted, kind, peaceful. And yet its not enough, he wants a woman who flip flops between what she wants, who tells him who can he be friends with.
He said he needed time to think but I made the decision for him. I removed myself from this situation. I also told him he should have told me he is EMOTIONALLY involved with this woman. I would have never started up anything. I think he got caught up in the situation, enjoyed how i make him feel, what i do for him but he didnt think maybe that I would stick around. 🤷♀️ I dont know.
We talked for 3 hours, i cried because i am again not enough and left for someone who is nothing but drama and problem. Men do not like soft, nurturing, peaceful women. They want someone who controls them, shouts, fights, slams doors. This is man number 4 who told me there is nothing wrong with me, i am all this and that and yet leaves me for an absolute horrible woman.
And i am 100% sure once that breaks down he will want to come back as all the others tried. But once you leave me for someone else there is no turning back.
He tried to say to stay friends but only to take advantage of my giving nature.
So maybe it is best all this came to light now. Maybe he didnt recognise his own feelings until she said she wants to try it and he decided to ignore all red flags. He will learn the hard way.
I broke contact, it is very hard not to have him around and communicate etc. But in a few days it will be like a distant memory and NO MORE HOLIRAY FLINGS. It was my first ever holiday romance and the last one