All the women I’ve asked to hang out with in the past they all say they are focusing on themselves and not interested in dating. I don’t think it’s a me thing, but it’s the experience I’ve had when meeting people irl. I always seem to only encounter the women who want to date on the dating apps. I’m sure there are places where women irl want to date, but the women I’ve spoken with do not. They always say they want to focus on themselves and then know no one they can set me up with.