As a stressed, single father far from family and without close support, it’s hard when no one seems to understand. Struggling with life’s challenges and difficulties with my daughter, I often feel alone and unsure where to turn.
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I’ve been using chat gtp explaining what’s going on and it offers advice.
It’s not a solution but it offers something that might help.
It’s probably for the best to tell people you’re not coping well. If people don’t know then they will assume you are doing fine.
We dont go anywhere we absorb it
Couple of beers a la the Shane Gillis sketch?
There are several non-profit support organisations, look them up “Support for Single Parents” they can provide help, guidance and help you prioritise what needs to be done vs what can wait and direct you to local or regional groups and connect you with other parents. Even if there are none locally, a virtual check in with others like yourself might help. You’re not the only one going through this, but that doesn’t make it any easier.
Sometimes they go away, like mine lol.
Joking aside, just keep in mind that everything changes. That’s a tough situation. If you can manage a therapist, that can be helpful.
Healthy ones: other fathers, parenting groups, friends.
Unhealthy ones: alcohol.
Golf Course
Hide in the bathroom for a few minutes.
Meditation, yoga, cigars, drives in the country. Those are my reliefs.
I take my car for a little drive somewhere remote have a coffee and a bacon sandwich then come back in a much better mood.
If that’s not an option, for example home alone with the kids, a nice long sit in the toilet does the job. Bonus points for putting Netflix on for half an hour, guaranteed solitude.
But I feel you bro. Particularly during the holidays, when sometimes it feels like there’s no respite. Don’t be scared to reach out. There’s so much more recognition and acknowledgement that men get sad too. /brohug
In Australia we have Men’s Sheds, and I understand they’re out there worldwide, might be worth checking out out.
Go do something preferably with other men. Common trope perpetuated by movies is stoic man who drinks and screws himself out of depression.
In reality. No don’t do that.
Aqui no Brasil, ele iria no puteiro, na zona mesmo sabe
To the Japanese onsen
For me?
1. Jesus (Bible, Prayer, Church and Fasting)
2. Men’s groups
3. Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, weights and running/walks
Is your daughter still young enough to have playdates? We used to do Saturdays in the park with the kids’ entire classes. People would bring snacks. The kids would play while the parents just hung out.
16 comments
I’ve been using chat gtp explaining what’s going on and it offers advice.
It’s not a solution but it offers something that might help.
It’s probably for the best to tell people you’re not coping well. If people don’t know then they will assume you are doing fine.
We dont go anywhere we absorb it
Couple of beers a la the Shane Gillis sketch?
There are several non-profit support organisations, look them up “Support for Single Parents” they can provide help, guidance and help you prioritise what needs to be done vs what can wait and direct you to local or regional groups and connect you with other parents. Even if there are none locally, a virtual check in with others like yourself might help. You’re not the only one going through this, but that doesn’t make it any easier.
Sometimes they go away, like mine lol.
Joking aside, just keep in mind that everything changes. That’s a tough situation. If you can manage a therapist, that can be helpful.
Healthy ones: other fathers, parenting groups, friends.
Unhealthy ones: alcohol.
Golf Course
Hide in the bathroom for a few minutes.
Meditation, yoga, cigars, drives in the country. Those are my reliefs.
I take my car for a little drive somewhere remote have a coffee and a bacon sandwich then come back in a much better mood.
If that’s not an option, for example home alone with the kids, a nice long sit in the toilet does the job. Bonus points for putting Netflix on for half an hour, guaranteed solitude.
But I feel you bro. Particularly during the holidays, when sometimes it feels like there’s no respite. Don’t be scared to reach out. There’s so much more recognition and acknowledgement that men get sad too. /brohug
In Australia we have Men’s Sheds, and I understand they’re out there worldwide, might be worth checking out out.
Go do something preferably with other men. Common trope perpetuated by movies is stoic man who drinks and screws himself out of depression.
In reality. No don’t do that.
Aqui no Brasil, ele iria no puteiro, na zona mesmo sabe
To the Japanese onsen
For me?
1. Jesus (Bible, Prayer, Church and Fasting)
2. Men’s groups
3. Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, weights and running/walks
Is your daughter still young enough to have playdates? We used to do Saturdays in the park with the kids’ entire classes. People would bring snacks. The kids would play while the parents just hung out.