Me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for close to a year. We’ve had very few problems and no strict rules, but she made one: she told me she unfollowed every guy on her social media. I assumed it was her way of showing commitment, so without her asking, I did the same.
A few months later, I noticed she’s now following random guys again, which she never told me about. Around the same time, one of her classmates started hitting on her. She first told me he was just “weird,” but over time he kept talking to her more and even sitting with her. Eventually, she told me she overheard him asking another classmate if she was single, and she didn’t correct him or mention that she was in a relationship.
I’ve never yelled or cussed at her, and when I get upset, I try to cool off before talking so we don’t get passive-aggressive. She sometimes sees my cooling-off period as me ignoring her, which makes arguments worse. I’ve been trying to improve my reactions, but I also don’t want to feel like a fool if she’s crossing lines.
How should I approach this situation?
TL;DR: Girlfriend made a rule to unfollow all guys on social media, I did the same. Months later, she followed random guys again. A classmate hit on her, and she didn’t say she’s taken. Unsure how to address it.