I know Reddit is a particularly negative place but I see way too many posts on here about "all the good ones being taken" or being "left behind" re dating in your 30s. I also used to hear a lot of pressure about it IRL, things like "if she's still single at 30 it's for a reason".
I had internalized a lot of that when I turned 30 and felt so anxious that I'd "missed the train" so to speak.
Well at 35 I have to say my lived experience has been completely the opposite: I love dating in my 30s!
I feel personally so much more accomplished and I know and love myself so much more than ever before. The women I date are also very self actualized and interesting, everything feels so intentional and communicative. We have some money to go on cool dates, and interesting stories to laugh about along the way.
In general it just feels like we treat one another with more kindness and compassion that only comes with the pain of aging. And for me that's been beautiful.
It's true, tits are saggier and foreheads are more ample, but acknowledging and accepting one another for our flaws has been liberating too. We're all too old to be instagram models now so fuck it.
If you're reading this and worried about dating in your 30s, don't give into the negativity and bs. I think there are a lot of reasons why this might be some of our best years for romance.