I [M24] have been with my girlfriend [F23] for almost 7 years.
She has always had trust issues because she was cheated on in the past, and early in the relationship I didn’t behave perfectly: some girls flirted with me on vacation and I bragged about it to some friends, without telling her, and eventually she found out.
But she forgave me and in the remaining years I have behaved perfectly in every possible way (she says so too), and I think only of her. Mentally and sexually I’ve never been interested in another girl.
We really love each other, and I think we are perfect together: we share a lot of passions and interests, we support each other, we make each other better, and she’s the most empathetic and caring person I’ve ever met.
The only problem for the past few years has been jealousy: she gets extremely jealous over very mild things and thinks every girl is interested in me, or that they stare at me, and says I should dress more loosely so they can’t see.
If I chat with someone, she wants to see who it is and sometimes reads the chat.
I play for a local basketball team, and she swears a woman (who is a friend of my teammates) likes me, so if she goes out with them I can’t go unless I bring her too.
And there are plenty of other examples, because we argue about jealousy at least twice a week.
Now she swears she will stop with this kind of thing, although we have discussed her jealousy a thousand times, i trust that this time she will stop for good. So I’m writing this example only to give a bit of context.
The problem is that this evening we wanted to watch a film, and it was my turn to choose. I picked American Beauty because I had heard great things about it, I like Kevin Spacey as an actor, and the 5 Oscars seemed like a good selling point. Immediately she got upset and said I stared too long at the cover. Then I saw her searching something on her phone, and I discovered she was checking if it contained nude scenes. Then we got into a huge fight.
She says I shouldn’t want to watch this kind of movie, that there’s no point in having nude scenes in films, and that she turns her head when they appear and so should I.
I explained to her that I don’t want to watch the movie for the sex scenes, that I couldn’t care less about seeing naked people it’s just nudity, there’s nothing sexual or arousing for me. As a matter of fact, I haven’t even watched porn since I’ve been with her. I also explained that sometimes she’s right and there’s no point in a nude scene, but i usually avoid films that leverage on that, and that I don’t make the films, so I don’t have a say in it, and other times those scenes have a meaning.
She kept asking me what I think when I’m watching a scene like that, and I replied that I don’t think anything i just keep watching like I do with the rest of the film.
This really upset me, because she says that I could still watch it alone like other films with nudity, but clearly now I don’t want to. And this “ban” covers a lot of films I wanted to see, which I think are pretty good despite the sex scenes.
For example, last year in the theatre we saw Nosferatu, and I wanted to rewatch it, but she gets upset even if I mention it for the end scene (which if you watched the film you know it has NOTHING sexual)
What should I do? Is it really that bad to watch films with nudity if you don’t care about it?
TL;DR My girlfriends gets upset if a film has nudity