Basically the title.
Didn’t really fit in in high school or college mainly due to bad anxiety/depression issues which I’ve MOSTLY overcome or at least deal with better
Have a pretty good paying job now but hate it. Trying to save money over the next 2 years then switch to something easier/lower stress for better work life balance as I’ll be able to afford a pay cut at that point
But kind of feel like my job is the only thing I really have going for me at least as far gaining other people’s respect (i don’t think I’m particularly smart, good looking, funny or talented – just a hard worker or maybe puts up with crap hours/pressure well)
I guess I’m a bit of a people pleaser and always felt like I had to constantly entertain or impress people to keep them as friends – which sometimes lead to me resenting them or being that friend that “randomly drops off the face of the earth” for a while
I feel like friends and family would … maybe not explicitly tell me to go to hell … but would freeze me out or lose respect if I took a pay cut. Even though I’d probably be happier over all
Feel like I need to choose between having friends and having happiness/good mental health
Anyone else deal with a similar issue?
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Why would friends or family give a damn if you took a pay cut if it meant you’re happier??
they aren’t friends. they are people who you are around and communicate with. I quit my best paying job, sold my house, bought a travel trailer drove across the country and went self employed. Forget this bs capitalism.
No offense but I wonder if you are projecting (at least somewhat). I don’t think it is at all universally true that friends and family judge eachother based on income. Im sure there is some level of sub consious bias, but its not on everyone’s mind.
If you really need to make that choice, definitely choose your mental health. You can always reconnect with people later when you are ready, or invest your social time / energy that you enjoy and feel more valued by.
Yes, I was definitely a late bloomer. It doesnt seem like that is what your post was really about though?
Yes, correct. Me.