As the title says I am thinking about breaking up with my gf because I discovered she has a history of cheating on her partners.
Me and my gf met on hinge and have been dating for almost 9 months, and in this time she was very secretive about her past relationships. I feel like for one I may not have been the most welcoming to learning about her past bc I have a big retroactive jealousy problem, but I still want to know about her experiences before me. When I first met her one of the earlier questions I asked was if she’d ever cheated in any past relationships and I was met with a stern and sudden “no”, and the speed at which she said no definitely felt like she was lying. So we go a few months and one night after a bad argument I go through her phone. I find nothing incriminating just things I don’t want to see (posts of her and her ex’S she still has up on her finsta) and that broke a lot of trust she had in me but it let me get a small view into her past which was a bit more promiscuous than I’d imagined it was. We talked about how I’d broken her trust but it still didn’t get her to speak on her past any extra. Anyways some more months go by and she leaves to play soccer and I am in her laptop home alone when I do the same thing I had done months prior and go through her stuff behind her back again, this time seeing some messages between her and her friend (21f) that she’d sent just a few months prior to us being together that said “omg I’m horrible I’ve cheated on every boyfriend I’ve ever had except for “T” (who is the guy she was cheating with) After seeing these texts, seeing she still followed the guy and being someone who’s been cheated on before I wanted to immediately leave and not even say goodbye, but the relationship we’d built up has prevented me from doing that. I still am in a weird place mentally because I learned what I had a feeling I was correct about but I also broke her trust in no t letting her admit these things to me herself. Wonder what your guys’ thoughts are
Tl;dr: Girlfriend has “cheated on all of her boyfriends” before we met and it’s making me reconsider being in a relationship with her.