I'm sharing a bit of my story to see if anyone out there relates. In a nutshell, I (F 40s) have been (legally) married for 23 years. Since the beginning, he's lied, cheated, gaslighted (gaslit?), manipulated, and all the other red flags except physical abuse. I married young because my family pushed it and my mom said, "Somebody's getting married because I already spent a lot of money." This is after we were engaged and I found out a lot of awful things about him, so I tried calling it off. But because of my family still pushing it to happen and mostly because of my mom (I couldn't pay her back at the time), I did go through with it. I later found out he had a girlfriend on our wedding day, along with a bunch of other crap. I had two small children when we met. We married and moved 1800 miles away from my home. I kept saying I'll leave once the kids graduate from high school. Well, that time has long passed. We still live together, but we haven't even shared a bedroom in over 10 years. I know that all men aren't the same, but everything in my personal life, examples I see from family and friends, Reddit posts, and things I see on TV totally put me off from men. I had given up, and figured I'd just be happy with kids and dogs, but they grow up and pass on/move away 😢. I'm human though, and I've become lonely. I used to joke that, because of how different we are, men should be with men and women with women. I always said I wished I liked women, so I could be in a happy relationship, but I never thought it'd actually be an option for me. Well, I'm ready to move on and actually date again. I really think I'd be happier with a woman than a man, but I've never dated women before. Has anybody decided to switch teams because you, too, were fed up? Did you actually find love and happiness in a same sex relationship or did it come with just as many problems?