What’s the most common issue you’re seeing in your dating pool?
August 7, 2025
This question is for women who are actively dating.
Are you seeing any common trends/issues among the people you're going on dates with?
15 comments
They breadcrumb while waiting for something better to come along…..
Men just being pigs. Objectifying women. Obviously checking out other women while you’re with them, following tons of random IG models, etc. It’s pretty gross when grown ass men are interested in bordering underage women.
Are there even decent men out there that don’t watch porn, gaze at random girls asses, and fully respect their ladies? Cause I haven’t come across any.
I am 36. I have a lot of divorcees interested in me but also younger men. Like I went on a date with a 28 year old, we really did hit it off but I want something serious not a fling. I dint want more kids either, so it isnt fair on him. Another 38year old man wants more kids … i am just not having much luck.
Just a lack of interest. Nobody is excited or motivated to go on dates. I’m not necessarily looking for anything serious either, but I can’t even get guys to show up for sex. They just can’t be bothered.
Biggest issue? They’re all dating “casually” like it’s a sport and I’m just here trying to build IKEA furniture with someone.
They all want to be FWB’s. Mind you, I’m 35. wtf lmao
Mid 40s – I see an overall lack of motivation. I’ve never been married and I am looking for my person, and that’s clearly stated in my profile. Still guys just want to text forever and then drag their feet about meeting up
People want relationship benefits without the relationship responsibilities. Everyone’s afraid of vulnerability, but still craves connection — so we end up in this weird loop of ‘talking stages’ that go nowhere. No one wants to be the one who cares first.
I’m writing 13 original fairytales regarding this !!! Comment section is research 😊🥰🤭🤝
They’re all so… simple. Not stupid necessarily. Just like, grown up little boys with little boy interests and perspectives on life.
They seem more interested in getting a girlfriend than finding out if we would be good together
Boring, in need of therapy, and far too concerned with what other people think of them.
Not picky enough
Not many vegans or vegetarians who actually
prioritize holistic health and spiritual devotion /
awakening. ~ Who “talk the talk” AND “walk the walk”.
People my age are living paycheck to paycheck despite their education.
15 comments
They breadcrumb while waiting for something better to come along…..
Men just being pigs. Objectifying women. Obviously checking out other women while you’re with them, following tons of random IG models, etc. It’s pretty gross when grown ass men are interested in bordering underage women.
Are there even decent men out there that don’t watch porn, gaze at random girls asses, and fully respect their ladies? Cause I haven’t come across any.
I am 36. I have a lot of divorcees interested in me but also younger men. Like I went on a date with a 28 year old, we really did hit it off but I want something serious not a fling. I dint want more kids either, so it isnt fair on him. Another 38year old man wants more kids … i am just not having much luck.
Just a lack of interest. Nobody is excited or motivated to go on dates. I’m not necessarily looking for anything serious either, but I can’t even get guys to show up for sex. They just can’t be bothered.
Biggest issue? They’re all dating “casually” like it’s a sport and I’m just here trying to build IKEA furniture with someone.
They all want to be FWB’s. Mind you, I’m 35. wtf lmao
Mid 40s – I see an overall lack of motivation. I’ve never been married and I am looking for my person, and that’s clearly stated in my profile. Still guys just want to text forever and then drag their feet about meeting up
People want relationship benefits without the relationship responsibilities. Everyone’s afraid of vulnerability, but still craves connection — so we end up in this weird loop of ‘talking stages’ that go nowhere. No one wants to be the one who cares first.
I’m writing 13 original fairytales regarding this !!! Comment section is research 😊🥰🤭🤝
They’re all so… simple. Not stupid necessarily. Just like, grown up little boys with little boy interests and perspectives on life.
They seem more interested in getting a girlfriend than finding out if we would be good together
Boring, in need of therapy, and far too concerned with what other people think of them.
Not picky enough
Not many vegans or vegetarians who actually
prioritize holistic health and spiritual devotion /
awakening. ~ Who “talk the talk” AND “walk the walk”.
People my age are living paycheck to paycheck despite their education.