Yes, it's long. I'm not doing a "TLDR". If you can't read a few paragraphs because it's too boring or hard, I don't know what to tell you.
I always thought it was so ridiculous when guys would describe some women as just "man-haters", and I still do, but my argument has always been that of course I like guys. I have brothers and a dad and nephews and I love them all, I just don't like some bad things that SOME men do, just like some women do some terrible things. Just like some doctors, some cops, some teachers, some whatever.
But I have gotten to where if I'm honest with myself, the stuff I've seen over the past decade (and it's just gotten more and more and worse and worse and more common) has really changed me. I feel like now it's the norm rather than the "some guys" who think really bad things about women- things that aren't supported by facts or evidence or even legit personal experience but by stories they share with each other and misinformation and just plain nastiness and pure sexism and misogyny that people will then deny even exists. I mean, this guy on here was literally saying to ask him anything after he'd gotten out of the psych ward for calling the cops on himself for having violent thoughts about hurting women. And they just let him out two weeks later, and we're all just casually asking him questions on reddit. Like wtf world am I living in.
Donald Trump is president of the United States.
No one fucking cares that this is happening. Men now love each other and women love each other, but men and women no longer love each other. How can the world go on like that?
I don't want to hate men, I swear to God I'm not choosing this. But I will not sacrifice my values in order to convince myself that this is ok.
So it may not seem like it belongs here but I couldn't post it anywhere else, so I'm sorry. I'm not asking for advice, I really did just want to say it "out loud" and please don't downvote me for having these feelings I can't control. I tried to post in confession but it didn't qualify.
I just needed to say it's really hard to be a woman right now and I've TRIED to consider the viewpoint that it's hard to be a man right now and it's just bullshit, I'm sorry but it is. I'm sorry that people are hardER on you these days than they have been historically but that does NOT mean you have it hard. I'm sorry that women are opinionated and some of us can act wrong, but that doesn't mean you are systematically oppressed or something. You aren't and never have been! So stop!
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*second edit: so far all the comments are only PROVING my point, so keep it coming.