This boy (24M) showed interest in me (23F), and I wasn’t considering it at first. But the more we talked, I started to like him back too.

And now it’s been 2 days and I haven’t heard from him. It’s pretty clear to me he’s not interested as much as he said he was. Like YOU showed INTEREST first and yet somehow I’m the one getting ghosted??? 😭😭 why is dating so exhausting these days?? I’m 23, I don’t have the time nor energy to be playing games.

Edit: I want to add more context. I’ve been talking and hanging out with him for 3 months and he decided to ghost me. I understand that feelings may change and he might not be interested in me anymore. That would have been fine if he had communicated that to me instead of ghosting me out of nowhere. I am frustrated because I feel like he took the cowardly way out instead of effectively communicating to me that he’s not interested anymore.


13 comments

  1. interest fades sadly. Liking someone in the evening can turn into disinterest in the morning.

    Keep at it and don’t settle. You’re 23! you do have plenty of time even if it doesn’t feel like it.

  2. No big deal. Dont waste your energy and time for someone who is not taking you for granted and making efforts. Trust me i know this from experience, one side expectations and efforts will lead you nowhere. Instead just move on and find someone you deserve. I knwo for sure you will find someone good. 👍👍👍

  3. Ghosting is a red flag. Perhaps a blessing in disguise that he ghosted you.

  4. To be fair, did you tell him that you weren’t “considering it at first?” Sometimes guys take a no as a no and just move on.

  5. It seems to happen a lot. People can be so wishy washy. Better luck next time.

  6. Guys will initiate and pretend to be interested to get sex. All the time.

    Having sex won’t mean he wants a relationship. If you want a relationship, make sure it’s already on that path… like you hang out 2-3 days/ week and talk frequently most days over a 1 month time span.

  7. Unfortunately it happens all the time, there’s so many factors that don’t even depend on you, I know how confusing it can be, I got rejected after an amazing first date!

  8. You don’t have time because you put a time limit on getting married and having kids ?

    23 is very very young, I was engaged at that age but it fell apart because it wasn’t right.

    Don’t rush, there is plenty of time to find the right man.

    Chill out, take it easy, love comes when you least expect it.

  9. i think he may have lost interest after getting to know you a bit more. it’s nothing to be upset about. he probably thought y’all weren’t compatible, simply. which saves you both time in the end.

  10. You have to remember that there are a lot of levels of getting to know each other.

    Just because a guy likes you after a few conversations, doesn’t mean he’ll like you after spending a week or a month or a year with you.

    We all put on masks, to attract the right guy or girl, pretend to be something we’re not, whether we intend it or not.

    When those masks start slipping you begin to show the real you and that’s when you know whether it’s gunna work or not.

    Don’t be hurt by it, it’s all part of getting to know each other and working out who you wanna be with.

  11. Two days of not texting at three months in doesn’t sound like ghosting to me.. ?

  12. Ugh, I get it. It’s so annoying when someone shows interest first, makes you feel like something real might come out of it, and then just disappears. Like why even bother? Especially after months of talking the least he could’ve done was say he’s not feeling it anymore. Ghosting is such a coward move, and it’s honestly exhausting trying to date when basic communication isn’t even a given anymore. You’re not crazy for being upset that shit hurts.

  13. Maybe he’s waiting for you to take the initiative and message him?

    I can tell you it gets exhausting always having to start the conversation

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