So a few months ago I went through a bad breakup and my best friend (28M) let me crash in his spare room. We’ve been super close since college — always platonic, never any weird tension or anything. I was a mess, and he was just… solid. Supportive. Kind. Never made me feel like a burden.
At first, it really was just me healing. But something’s shifted. We’ve gotten closer. I don’t even know how to explain it, it’s just a feeling. Like the way he looks at me sometimes, or how we linger in silence without it feeling awkward. Or how we end up cooking together or watching stuff on the couch and accidentally falling asleep next to each other. Stuff that feels like more than “just friends,” y’know?
I don’t know if he feels the same. He hasn’t said or done anything obvious, but I swear there’s something there. Or maybe I’m projecting. Maybe it’s just me romanticizing because he’s been there for me when I was at my worst. I’ve been burned before, so I’m second-guessing everything.
But here’s the problem: I’m starting to catch feelings. Real ones. And I have no idea what to do with that.
I don’t want to mess up the friendship. I don’t want to make it weird — we live together. But I also don’t want to keep this bottled up and then find out he felt the same and thought I wasn’t interested. The timing is confusing, I’m still figuring myself out post-breakup, and I’m just… scared.
So Reddit: how do I even begin to approach this? Do I say something? Wait it out? Test the waters? I feel like I’m in emotional limbo.
TL;DR: I moved in with my best friend after a breakup. Now I think I’m catching feelings and I don’t know if he feels the same. We live together and I don’t want to ruin what we have, but I also don’t want to stay quiet and regret it. What would you do?