so I am in my mid twenties (25) and I have the feeling that I am too old to experience true love. Somehow everyone has found and experienced their first love and no matter who I meet, the people I date can’t let go of their past experiences and keep on comparing me with their past partners. Vacations, Birthdays, Christmas, Valentines day.. i‘ve never been able to share these moments with someone. Never done a „Baecation“. I‘ve never been someone elses home. But everyone else has. Everyone else got to experience another person like this.
I always have the feeling that what I have with a guy is never really special. For guys I am just another talking stage, but I hold onto the little dates and late night walks because I try to be intentional who I spend my time with so these little moments are special to me.
But what is special to guys? Scking their dick on the first date to „connect“ to you?
I cry about this every night because what is the solution? I have to put myself out there, because I do not believe that someone will just come knocking on my door. But somehow I think it‘s just my fate and I am starting to accept it
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I met the love of my life at 27. He’s spooning me right now while I can’t sleep at 4:30 am. He still loves his exes but so do I. It’s not a threat nor anything we want to relive
My friend found her true love and husband at 35! They’re on baby number 2 now. 🥰
Too old at 25?! Come on if that was true that would be the most depressing thing ever. You’re only just a full blown adult….
I just peeked at your profile cause I’m a little nosy sorry. But from a quick glimpse…girl you sound burnt out. Take a break, take a breather, take a chill pill.
I stopped dating after my last ex and I broke up and honestly it’s been so nice. Don’t get me wrong I liked being with someone. But also like being alone. Take a long enough break that you’re excited to date again. Those are the best kind of interactions, not the people burnt out but the people excited.
People should not compare you to their previous partners. That’s rude and belittling. You deserve to be treated better than that in a relationship.
Someone can probably articulate this better than I can, but it sounds like you want more meaningful things compared to the people who you’re dating. You can and will find someone who shares those values, it’s just hard to sift thru people.
Don’t put too much pressure on those “perfect” moments like a beacation or whatever. Social media/society highlights those things, but they don’t always live up to the hype. Focus on finding the right person, then everything else will come more naturally 😊
When you get to your 30s, you’ll realise that your 20s are basically the same as your teens, just without parental supervision.
Just be patient and focus on doing what makes you happy. You have an entire life ahead of you and there’s more to living than romance. When you work on yourself and do things to bring yourself joy, higher quality people tend to notice and want to do it with you; you may even fall for one of them.
Just because a girl sees a guy’s house, that doesn’t mean it’s true love. I know couples married for over 20 years and they hate each other’s guts, you never know what happens behind closed doors. If you’re a woman and you’re 25 then you will find a partner, that’s almost guaranteed. Literally just approach a guy you see outside
You can experience real love at any age. As for people not over their exes, just move on when that happens.
Not everyone is hung up on an ex.
Depends what you mean by true love. If it’s the fairytale, you’ll be disappointed. If you get moments where you love someone and feel loved back, those are sweet, and can happen at any age, however, having it last, is tricky, can’t say I’ve mastered it.
If you are wanting to meet someone that has no past, yes that is unlikely as you get older, you have to accept that. Men who talk too much about their past, are probably best avoided. But also, you can learn a lot about them through what they say about past relationships, so it can be useful as a guide to how you might get treated.
Don’t mix having a past love with being unable to love again, the one true love ideation it total BS.
I’m 49 and although I’m not sure I believe in true love, I am currently infatuated AF with someone I’ve sort of known for 3 months (was pretty much from the start though). We’re not currently planning on dating (has been discussed briefly) but I haven’t felt this way in 25 years or so and probably only 3-4 times in my life. We will see how long it lasts.
Omg. Baaaaayby. You’re just getting started. You don’t know what true love is yet.
Stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop overthinking. Your time will come. People find true love even in their 50s.